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staying inspired//career

23 Oct

sometimes, when i need a boost of inspiration, i turn to my old college textbooks. yes, i know that sounds odd because (those that know me know) I strive for relevancy in an ever-changing, consumer-driven world. why would you go back 20-30-40 years to get those nuggets of wisdom? because change just for change’s sake is meaningless without core strategy. and in advertising, those that led the way “back in the day” had that and then some. it is FROM that place of core strategy to where we must then grow, evolve and be relevant in marketing – even today.

for example, here are my past inspirations:

david olgilvy (main inspiration for being in advertising) – his book sits on my desk even to this day:

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or good ole leo burnett. i would walk by leo burnett every day when in college in chicago. i would dream about working there some day. do you know that every day, employees get an apple on their desk?

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or charlotte beers- brilliant – paving the way for us women!

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i have many modern day advertising heros as well. but there is only one that i want to highlight.
before I do, i have to tell a little story.

on october 13th, it would have been my grandma’s birthday. she has been gone now for 24 years. i loved my grandma. she was strong, opinionated, smart. i was thinking of her when i asked my mom if I had any traits from my grandma. after much discussion, the answer was… no -not really. it wasn’t until later that day when i thought more about our conversation and i realized it was my mom who i resembled – more than my grandma. how wonderful is that?

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my mom does such a fantastic job of advertising for a restaurant and grill in her neighborhood that they turned her volunteer job into a paid job! and she does such a good job of it because she enjoys it and has a passion for it. yep, i’m proud to be my mom’s daughter!

appreciating really good friends & party of all parties!

21 Oct

there are many reasons i married my husband, ROF.  

one was how many really good friends he has.  it wasn’t that he has a lot of friends, which he does.  or the fact that they are all really great people, which they are.  but it was what i learned from him and his friends.  in order to have really good friends, you have to be a really good friend.   it sounds like a no brainer but you have to make a concentrated effort to do so – it isn’t something that you just get handed.  some people prioritize other things before being a good friend and that is everyone’s perogative.  i think i have a lot to learn from him.  while i have plenty of good friends and people i love and who love me back, this is an area i can always be learning.

you have to listen more than you talk, be willing to go above and beyond the call of duty for a fun time or a friend in need, you have to build traditions.  whether it is watching a football game and drinking bloody marys together or just grabbing a cup of coffee and talking about really deep, hard subjects.

his friends threw us a outstanding party last night, i couldn’t wait to share some photos.  thanks so much to moody, paul, anthony, d, curt, tim, tod, todd and tom.  and thanks so much to susan and jennifer and everyone who made it such a memorable night and make us so so sad to leave.  we’re positive that no one in michigan will write us a rap song (thanks, david bolner) and perform it with such gusto.  thanks to all that came to be with us!

from an artist who sketches “butts” to a photo booth to sammy’s BBQ (we had our reception there!) to the “screaming o’s” desserts – everything was wonderful!

 

like it or not – you’re making an impact.

17 Oct

for some reason, this has weighed a lot on my mind lately and i can’t remember what has brought it on. maybe it is moving and all the emotions that go along with that.

it’s something that is easier to see being applied to someone else – but not necessarily yourself. you are important to someone. you’re important to many people. we have such a hard time truly grasping the reality of us being a living, breathing NEED in someone’s life. but we are. we make an impact on others.

my biggest example of this is my dad. before he passed away, he left and divorced my mom. you can read all about that in “my story” over to the right and at the bottom (grab some wine, sit down with it if you must) but i was 30 and it absolutely tore any sort of solid ground i was standing on out from underneath me. i decided to not talk to my dad for about 6 months (at the time, it was planned out to be forever) i didn’t know how to act when i had been so hurt. my cousin, jim, said to me: ” i think your dad underestimated how you’d react”. it was then that i thought that my dad made a decision and didn’t really think about anyone else but himself. you may say – well, yea – that is who he should be concerned with, right?

but to add to the “we are important” comment above, we don’t realize the IMPACT we have on other people.

there is so much strife in this world without adding to it. relatives not talking to one another, friends not moving over a sticking point, friends moving/leaving/abandoning you. as i roll over these thoughts more, i think back to the ted video from brene brown on vulnerability. if you haven’t seen it, click here.

the thing is – you can control two things and there is one thing you can’t control.

you can control:

1. telling someone that they are important to you. you’re not confessing anything, you are not saying you condone what they do or what they’ve done but let them know that THEY AFFECT YOUR LIFE. write a note. send a text. mail a postcard. dial a number. leave a message. here is the script:

“you need to know that you are important to me.” and add one reason why. and that’s it. maybe that is to someone that you see and talk to every day. your husband, your mom, your sister, a friend, a co-worker, a mentor. maybe it is someone you haven’t talked to in a long time, maybe it is someone who has passed away, maybe they did you wrong. but you still think about them. they take up real estate in your head. i’d say that is important.

you can also control:

2.owning that you’re important and knowing that you affect other people. your decisions while your own, do affect other people either positively or negatively. that applies to many decisions: decision to drive after having too much to drink, decision to silence your phone when your daughter is talking, decision to say ‘i’m sorry’ or ‘you’re forgiven’.

you can’t control:

3. the fact that others make decisions that impact you in a negative way. you can only focus on people you have an impact on and people that have impacted you in a positive way.

who are those people in your life? can you give me one person and why?

“A life is not important except in the impact it has on other lives.”

Jackie Robinson

new york botanical gardens escape

16 Oct

while in NY for business, i got a chance to stay until saturday at my sister/brother in-laws house in chatham, nj.

you can’t beat new jersey in the fall.  you know, now that i think about it – new jersey and detroit are very similar.  yes, one is a state and one is a city but they both have totally skewed perceptions about them.  you’d think (from the media) that the minute you step in new jersey a mad housewife is going to come yelling at you or a snookie is going to bump into you at the grocery store.  but new jersey is gorgeous.

detroit – same thing.  while some of it true – it is still the murder capital of the country and all – no one ever mentions how fantastic the neighboring towns are.

anyway, fodder for a future post.  i was thinking it, so i wrote it.  

susan and i went to the beautiful new york botanical gardens in the bronx (hello…the bronx y’all!)  last week we stole away for a few hours and walked the grounds where there was a monet exhibit and had a wonderful lunch.  we also rode a tram (freezing cold!!) around the entire grounds.  who knew it was started in the 1800’s?  not i.

this picture above was not made in the future.  yes, it is only october, 2012 not 2013 but i can’t change it or don’t have time to – so please ignore.  thanks mom for letting me know!

Insta Food

11 Oct

it’s no secret, I like good food. maybe … a little too much! and sometimes, to the displeasure of my dining companions, i take snaps of my food. sometimes it just looks so good.

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warming to the season

9 Oct

these are some great, cozy, fall finds.  you can shop any of them here.   who knew leg warmers could be so cool?

sleepless art

4 Oct

i like to design art on my ipad when i can’t sleep. what do you like to do?

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mindful of life, while you live it

2 Oct

what a great sermon we listened to this sunday.

thank you Dr. Blair Monie!  it was uncanny that my mom had mentioned something similar to the theme of the sermon the evening before.  it was talking about being really mindful of where you were, where you have been from and where you’re going.  i guess we all can get in a place where a day is just another day.  or we’ve never really changed anything up so that we see the same things, talk to the same people and basically are content.  nothing wrong with that unless everything in your life is routine and therefore there is the fear that you could take everything for granted.  taking things for granted means that we’re not really mindful of the present.

why is that important?

because someday you will get old and your memories (if that) will be all you have.  not just memories of big trips or events like getting married – but everything.   like that rainy sunday you went to the movies with your mom and you both shivered under a shared umbrella while laughing and running to the car.  or the crunch of that favorite sushi roll you enjoyed with your sister-in-law while talking and sharing and getting to know each other.

the above was more my commentary than that of our pastor.  he reflected on the play “our town”, in which one of the main characters can choose one day to go back and experience one more time.  she chooses her 12th birthday party.  she finally finds it too painful, and realizes just how much life should be valued, “every, every minute.” poignantly, she asks the stage manager whether anyone realizes life while they live it, and is told, “No.

do you realize life while you live it?

dr. monie described a powerful message in psalm 8.

Lord, our Lord,
how majestic is your name in all the earth!

You have set your glory
in the heavens.
Through the praise of children and infants
you have established a stronghold against your enemies,
to silence the foe and the avenger.
When I consider your heavens,
the work of your fingers,
the moon and the stars,
which you have set in place,
4 what is mankind that you are mindful of them,
    human beings that you care for them?[c]

You have made them a little lower than the angels
and crowned them with glory and honor.
You made them rulers over the works of your hands;
you put everything under their feet:
all flocks and herds,
and the animals of the wild,
the birds in the sky,
and the fish in the sea,
all that swim the paths of the seas.

Lord, our Lord,
how majestic is your name in all the earth!

my own appreciation of my Lord is another blog post, or perhaps another blog all together.  as it is certainly something i don’t take for granted.  everyone has their own “religion” (and, to each their own) but i have a relationship with God and this psalm is so magnificent.  powerful in the thinking that He is mindful of us.  no matter what your upbringing, no matter what pain we’ve been through – or any apathetic, agnostic nothingness (which is worse, to me) – He has crowned us with glory and honor. to me, if God is mindful of me, then that blows my mind.  and makes me realize that i must be just as mindful of Him.  oh, the challenge in that!

leaving behind vs. being left: deep thoughts

25 Sep

throughout your whole life you will have people leave you.  think about friends/family that have left you in their various ways.  move.  death. argument.

throughout your whole life you will leave people.  you get married.  job transfer. want to explore.  many reasons.

so is it harder being the leaver or being left?  i think being left for sure… at first.  when you’re left, your standing there with a void that is hard to fill.  memories flood your brain and tears well up in your eyes.  you feel abandoned and that hardens you just a little bit.  maybe around the edges.  

the leaver is excited and looking forward to a new challenge and surroundings.  they are nervous, maybe, but they buck up and put on their badge of courage and lift their chin up.  don’t get me wrong.  the leaver is sad.  deeply sad.  but also pre-occupied.

that is when it becomes hard for the leaver – later.  after normalcy sets in and they realize that their family and friends are far away and their home town is…no longer their home town.  it is hard to answer the question “where are you from?”  this applies obviously if the leaver is just moving.

i have been the leaver many, many times in my life.  as far as i remember (being old enough to have significant memories that is.)  in third grade i left boston and my friends like karen hughes and billy pine.  billy had a pool and the school bus stop was on the corner by his house.  on hot days i remember lingering in front of billy’s driveway hoping he’d say “wanna go swimming?” which he always asked and i always sprinted home and got my suit on.   after my freshman year, i left grand blanc michigan and a tennis team i worked so hard to be on. i left my best friends heather day and wendy gifford and a ton of friends from my youth group at church.  i remember going to the OLOL dark dance hall and grooving to “erotic city” by prince.   after my sophomore year, i left milwaukee and my best friend amy bloomberg whose mom invented shrinky dinks and was the mayor of our town and amy continued to vacation with me and my family after we moved.  after college, i left home and moved downtown.  i had the time of my life with best friends kerri antles, sean, mark, dana larrabee, connie and all my work buddies from three different jobs.  when i was 34 i left chicago and moved to dallas and now at 42, i’m leaving again.

this time i leave with the full knowledge that friendships are life long and grow, even if we’re apart.  maybe even more so.  the visits become more real and fun catching up and digging in.  and never lose touch. we’re too old to lose friends.  right?

i haven’t been left very many times.  i’ve been left by death by my grandma and my dad.  both hurt a lot.  i’ve been left by my brother who has chosen to not want to have anything to do with me and hasn’t for two years now.  hurt.

what do you think?  harder to be left or be the leaver?  do you ever think about stuff like this?

cool pics

23 Sep

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lyrical sunday: we live

16 Sep

on september 25th, my dad will have been gone 7 years.  

hardest for me to believe (and i’ve always thought this) is that a living, breathing human being who was such an integral part of my life is just…gone.  never to be spoken to again.

maybe some of you know how i feel.  every single day, i think about my dad.  either it is remembering the funny line from the movie “wedding crashers” (she’s a stage 5 clinger!) that he laughed at or feeling his hands as they got so soft from the chemo or a james taylor song on the radio.

but around this time of year, i reflect on something that many people and maybe not so many know about.  how to hold someone’s hand as they bravely die.  as their body shuts down.  i remember september 24th, 7 years ago now, sleeping on the couch next to my dad’s bed at night watching his chest go up and down in the night.  i would hold my cell phone up and shine it across the room just to make sure he would know i was there.

for today, i want to share with you some lyrics that have always meant a lot to me.  i swear i need to engrave them somewhere so every morning i remember this.  in a world of a very shallow focus of “keeping up with the jones” these are great words to remember.

There’s a cross on the side of the road
Where a mother lost her son
How could she know that the morning he left
Would be the last time she’d trade with him for a little more time
(so she could say she loved him one last time)
And hold him tight
But with life we never know when we’re coming up to the end of the road
So what do we do then
With tragedy around the bend

We live, we love, we forgive and never give up
Cuz the days we are given are gifts from above
And today we remember to live and to love
We live, we love, we forgive and never give up
Cuz the days we are given are gifts from above
And today we remember to live and to love

There’s a man who waits for the tests to
See if the cancer had spread yet
And now he asks why did I wait to live ’til it was time to die
If I could have the time back, how I’d live
Life is such a gift
So how does the story end?
Well, this is your story and it all depends
So don’t let it become true
Get out and do what we were meant to do

We live, we love, we forgive and never give up
Cuz the days we are given are gifts from above
And today we remember to live and to love
We live, we love, we forgive and never give up
Cuz the days we are given are gifts from above
And today we remember to live and to love

Waking up to another dark morning
People are mourning
The weather in life outside is storming
But what would it take for the clouds to break
For us to realize each day
Is a gift somehow, someway
And get our heads up out of this darkness
And spark this new mindset and start on with life cuz it ain’t gone yet
And tragedy’s a reminder to take off the blinders and wake up
(to live the life)
We’re supposed to take up
(moving forward)
With all our heads up
Cuz life is worth living

We live, we love, we forgive and never give up
Cuz the days we are given are gifts from above
And today we remember to live and to love
We live, we love, we forgive and never give up
Cuz the days we are given are gifts from above
And today we remember to live and to love

 -superchick (look the song up!)

snail mail is back!

10 Sep

yes, we all love email, we love our computers, social media and apps.  however, don’t we all love getting something real cool in the mail?  it is so “in” now to sign up for these very hip monthly “gift” subscriptions.  it makes coming home from work and sorting through all the junk mail and bills…fun.  because there is a little something-something of awesome in the pile for you.

this is also a great gift idea.  it’s the gift that keeps on giving.  and it is so much more now than just a wine or fruit of the month club.  

before we talk about that – i can not mention snail mail without talking about my awesome husband.  he masters the art of sending postcards.  he sends me postcards from every where he goes – even when we are together.  and he sends them to my office.  it is such a huge grin that comes on my face when i get back from vacation and get the mail and i see a postcard peeking out of the stack of ad age and auto news subscriptions.

but more than that, he sends them to my mom, sister, his sister and various friends and family around the county.  so cool.

back to the gifts

so in addition to postcards and letters from loved ones, why not sign up with one of these companies to send you some goods?   my sister said to my mom this weekend, when she questioned the money my sister spent on one of these, ” I’M SINGLE AND IF I WANT TO GET A GREAT PACKAGE OF STUFF IN THE MAIL I’M GONNA DO IT!”  ok!

birchbox: a fun, hip beauty box that sends you samples of great products (and some full size ones too) for $10 a month.  i get this one and like it a lot.

lost crates: “crates” or boxes that are curated (a fave word of mine) by bloggers, companies and fun people.  you can take a test to discover what kind of box you should receive.  art, food, design – anything.  check out this website!

giftlit.com:  this is a monthly delivery site for book lovers.  super cool.  especially if you’re a foodie.  they have monthly kids books, chick lit – lots!

here is popsugar’s monthly box.  for $35 a month, you get full-size goodies.  katie loved her first installment this month which is on the website.  i think this would be a great gift for a daughter (hint hint), sister, best friend.  but probably not your husband.

then… there is whimsey box.  for you DIY folks, force yourself to do a simple project every month with everything you need delivered to your doorstep. make easy projects like the one above and be proud that you did it yourself.

there is a great website resource for you in amazing clubs.com.  there is the bacon of the month club, peanut butter of the month club and so much more.  i know the perfect person to give the bacon of the month club to!

lastly, if you like to try out healthy snacks, there is yumvelope.  this is a little sack of goodness coming to you monthly.

hope you found these as fun as i think they are.  please let me know if you sign up for any of them!

sunday poetic musings

9 Sep

change is in the air

3 Sep

by now you may have learned that ROF and i are moving…

it’s bittersweet. 

i’ve always embraced change but at the same time there is something in me that wants consistency and same-ness. there is comfort in what you know vs. the fear that comes with what you don’t.  however, i’ve discovered that fear dissipates as soon as you push past it.  then it becomes something that you know.


home is where the heart is and my heart is with ROF.  i gave my mom a sign that says on it “home is where your mom is” and that is true as well.  at least it was true for 39 of my 42 years.  however, having said that… i still do love our home.   and while i’m excited for change, i’m sad to be saying good-bye to a home that i love.  but it’s just a home, right?

i bonded with my sister in this home.  we bought it together 4 years ago and we had a lot of fun.  neither of us planned on it being our “forever house” – obviously – but at the time, we were single and looking to decorate.  and we loved to entertain.  i will forever look back on this time together with great fondness and memories.  then the house became ROF & my house!

the entertaining continues….   if i thought katie and i threw some parties, ROF and i really threw some parties.  all kinds.  small dinner parties, bigger bashes.  one of my favorite was ROF’s 40th birthday surprise party.  they opened an old bottle of tequila and things got fun from there – especially the fun with the cake designed to look just like… max.

another real memorable party was my mom’s 70th birthday party.  we had over 50 people here at our house, a band in the back yard, a mobile burger  unit in the back yard, homemade sangria and a special cake.  we had a blast and mom was so surprised.

i got engaged, married and lived happily ever after in this home.  we had an unbelievable wedding weekend in dallas followed by a brunch at our house with many of our friends and family members.  i’ll always cherish that time with ROF and all the people special to us.

i can’t wait to make new memories in our new place, in our new city.  i hope those memories have to do with first snows, cabin trips with card games and good ole mid-western fun.  but we’ll never forget the fun we had here.  whomever you are that gets this house…you’re lucky.  we all loved it!

if you are interested in this house – click here

 

no retirement plan or safety net

23 Aug

he may not have had a retirement plan, but our driver this morning certainly had a life.  we were chit chatting with him on the way to the airport and i found him to be one of the most interesting persons i’ve talked to in a long time.  ROF thought he was a little coo-coo.  he was from the same small town in michigan my aunt and uncle were from – sault st. marie – and he knew of my uncle and the dealership he owned.

as we drove to the airport, he shared with us all the different things he has done from being a correction officer in that small town to putting himself through college by being a card dealer at a casino.  he also owned a transportation company at one point and lived in the wild in alaska one month at a time.  he also raced snowmobiles.   he was in his 50s and i thought it was fun, for a moment, to imagine living a life like that – unpredictable, kind of on the edge.  he said he had a crazy resume but it didn’t make much for a retirement plan.  he said he was more worried about the “end of the year, when the world ends” than what is going to happen in the elections this fall.  he’ll probably get out of dallas and make sure he is somewhere remote.  imagine being scared of that.

i am so predictable and typically play things safe.  what if i lived without a safety net – what would i do?  i think it would be cool if we were all forced to learn a new trade every seven years.  wouldn’t that make us more eclectic, well-rounded people?  you know what i’d do?  well, i’m gonna tell you:

1. learn how to make cheese.  and not mozzarella.  like good cheese.

2. become a sommelier.

3. fitness trainer.  that would force me to get fit !

4. car salesperson.  i think i would kick ass at this.

5. jewelry designer

6. flight attendant

7. chef

8. magazine editor – also think i would rock this.

9. travel agent

10. graphic designer

oh one more…

11. interior designer

the question is – what’s stopping me from doing this?

appreciating: a break

22 Aug

post #blogshopdallas

20 Aug

so i guess you’re wondering how the class was?  it was really fun and educational.   of course, i’m not showing off my new skills except with this schnazzy new banner i created up above.    i love seeing other people be so passionate and excited about what they do.  i also discovered that i love love love photoshop and designing.  i love being creative. 

check out my “teacher’s” blogs here and here.  then see if a blogshop is coming near you.  if this interests you, grab your mac and go! 

being comfortable being uncomfortable

18 Aug

is my new mantra.  

and to start off a sea of changes, i’ve signed up for a class that i’m slightly uncomfortable with taking this weekend.

why would taking a class make me step out of my comfort zone?  this begs me to give you a little background.  i started this blog over a year ago for one reason initially – to know how to start a blog for the CEO of my company.  i don’t talk too much about my job in this blog but i shall now – i love it.  i am the self-proclaimed and company backed vp of social media for a national ad agency that handles chevrolet groups across the country.  i have so much more to say about this but that i just decided, will come in subsequent posts.  

so any way… i will get back to this class i’m taking.  

while i have become quite good (if i say so myself) at working at introducing bloggers all over the country to chevrolet (see example here), I decided that i wanted to become a blogger myself , you know, so i would know how to do it.  i could advise my boss, be able to relate even better to the bloggers in the programs we launch are like,  plus, i like to write, design, dream and link to cool interesting things.  so i came up with my theme of the appreciator (see about me). 

being comfortable being uncomfortable

so i am, by no means, a “professional” blogger.  and there are tons of them out there and i will be with them today.  everything is cute.  and everything is perfectly curated and designed.  (love it) so i’m going to learn!  this class today and tomorrow is me, at forty two, stepping out of my comfort zone, getting with other bloggers and making myself vulnerable and open to learning new, cool things.  i’m scared to death they are going to look at my work and giggle a little giggle like “isn’t that cute”.  but that is just my insecurity showing.  and remember, i promised you here that i’d show you that part of me.

so i’m excited to learn new things, learn how to make this blog schnazzier and who knows maybe even become a graphic designer in the making!  this class is a two day immersion in photoshop specifically for bloggers – 20 of us.  watch this video here:

blogshop new york

photos, courtesy of blogshop

mugging down

1 Aug

i’ve always wanted to collect something.

but could never decide on what.  my sister collected hotel supplies (there’s a story behind that) and shot glasses (so 1980’s).  my aunt is a great collector of various themes.  my mom had dabbled in various interesting artifacts.  i used to gather matches from places we’ve been to but no one hands out matches anymore – i guess so they don’t encourage smoking.  they also take up a lot of room.

well, the wait is over, folks.  i’m collecting city mugs by starbucks.  this DOES NOT MEAN i am a fan of starbucks.  i most certainly am not.  way too mainstream for me.  i am a coffee snob.   however, these mugs have driven me slightly coo-coo obsessive.  ask my friend and sister-in-law, susan and her husband , mike. i dragged them to 3-4 (maybe 5?) starbucks in desperate search of a san antonio city mug.  as it turned out – they were out.  like in the whole city.

i find this fun because i travel a lot and i’m starting to get quite a fun collection of colorful mugs.  this does not mean i won’t accept them from friends/family across the country (hint hint) as susan sent us an awesome indianapolis mug (because someone who shall remain nameless forgot to bring me back one when he was there) and a new york (!!) mug.

they have these all over the world and i’d love to get a paris one – obviously from visiting paris.   oh yeah – these are useable mugs.  ROF and i drink our morning joe from these each day.

snagged at the airport starbucks with a screech of sheer joy

got this yesterday, at the airport, once again. this was way up top, like on display and the lady looked at me like i was nuts asking her to get it down for me.

appreciating: sarcasm

12 Jul

so i’ve jumped on the bandwagon

with these e-cards where super sarcastic comments are juxaposed with old fashioned etchings. they are quite the giggle on Facebook, if you’re into that. which i am. you can email these to your friends.

check them all out here or I’ve picked out some good ones below.

appreciating: the free ride

10 Jul

i travel a lot for business.  like, a lot.  and i have to share with you one of my favorite things.

 

it’s the people that drive the rental car buses and the hotel shuttles.

it’s a wide range of people that do this but i typically run into older, retired folks and for the past 20 years, i’ve always thought the same thing – someday i will be them.  maybe not driving the bus, per se.  but older.  and hopefully content.  suddenly, you realize that you’re working so hard to… drive a shuttle bus someday!  if that isn’t enough reason to slow down and smell the roses, i don’t know what is.  this puts things in perspective for me.  here i am all stressed and stuff, yapping on the phone, texting, emailing, face booking, tweeting, on conference calls, juggling a suitcase and a briefcase, sweating, swearing and worried that things that i can’t control will come to fruition.
i used to fly from love field into houston intercontinental airport.  you can’t do that anymore, by the way. but i did it every month for about 5 years going to visit the houston area chevy dealers. there was the nicest man who used to pick me up in the hotel shuttle and drop me off.  and it was such a kind interaction.  we’d chat about where in africa he was from and how it differed from houston.  we’d talk about what was going on in and around houston and texas.  it made me remember to slow down and enjoy the process and not always be seeking the finish line.  talk to people, learn about someone else.

yep, i appreciate you mr or mrs shuttle bus driver

appreciating: family and keeping it real

9 Jul

“the strength of a family, like the strength of an army, is in its loyalty to each other.”  

MARIO PUZO, The Family

there is nothing more loving and more heartbreaking than the dynamics behind families.  and everyone has a story.  no family is without defect.  sure, families love to portray a perfect picture – especially around holidays or weddings but the truth is not one family is perfect.  not one – no matter how many pictures you post on facebook, your not fooling anyone.  the key here is: the goal is not to strive to be perfect.  it is in that striving that a lot of hurt happens.  you never measure up to this leave-it-to-beaver existence and it hurts.  it is only by being vulnerable about your family’s imperfections that you find (maybe) the purpose in which you probably are going through them in the first place.  to help others.  to be able to offer your learnings of getting through a particular situation to someone else going through the same thing.  you can extend words that hit home because you know what it’s like.

it is kind of like death or divorce or cancer.  if you haven’t gone through it, you don’t know.  and (please) don’t pretend you know.  and don’t offer advice.  however, if you have gone through it – your insight is priceless.  it could be one of the reasons we go through what we do.  who knows.

i remember being in my office after hours about 7 years ago.  i thought i was the only one in the office and decided to have a good cry.  my dad was dying of cancer and there was nothing i could do but be with him until the very end.  hold his hand.  tell him jokes.  tell him i will always love him.  i thought i was alone in my office but i wasn’t.  a new girl whom i didn’t know very well was there too.  her name was yareli.  she came in my office and hugged me and told me that she knew what i was going through because her mom had died in a car accident just 3 years earlier.  she didn’t tell me her whole story then and there but the empathy she showed in her action and her words told me that i wasn’t alone, i wasn’t stupid for crying in my office late at night.  i had a friend who knew how to say more than “i’m sorry”.  i will always love my friend for reaching out that night and not just slipping out or writing me an email.

it’s the same with families.  speaking of families, this past week ROF and i got to spend some extra special time with ROF’s sister, susan and his brother-in-law, mike.  susan has written some awesome articles for this blog which you can read here, here and here.  susan and ROF have a wonderful relationship that i know means so very much to both of them.  we had a blast this past week starting with the 4th of july and going until yesterday.  here is a photo diary of the past few days.

breakfast @hypnotic donuts in dallas

4th of july at the blue goose in dallas

4th of july at the blue goose in dallas

headed down to san antonio

dinner the first night – no where else but Rudy’s BBQ!

playing “tumbling tower” (or jenga) at hyatt hill country resort – awesome!

me – goofing off and playing with templates

there is nothing in the world like a loving family.  ROF and i were so thankful to be able to spend time with susan and mike this past week!

deep thoughts by the appreciator

27 Jun

i read this today and it’s really made me think:

“when you are gone, the ONLY thing you will leave behind is the memories you’ve created’

what goes through your mind when you hear that?  

read it. learn it. do it.

25 Jun

some may call this “mailing it in” and i’d agree.  except this is an exceptional article and some of you don’t tweet, so you didn’t see it.  so read it now.  and click on the link below to go to the actual article in INC magazine.  enjoy.  oh…and read…

from INC Magazine:

9 Beliefs of Remarkably Successful People

The most successful people in business approach their work differently than most. See how they think–and why it works.

Johnny Valley/Getty Images

 

I’m fortunate enough to know a number of remarkably successful people. Regardless of industry or profession, they all share the same perspectives and beliefs.

And they act on those beliefs:

1. Time doesn’t fill me. I fill time.

Deadlines and time frames establish parameters, but typically not in a good way. The average person who is given two weeks to complete a task will instinctively adjust his effort so it actually takes two weeks.

Forget deadlines, at least as a way to manage your activity. Tasks should only take as long as they need to take. Do everything as quickly and effectively as you can. Then use your “free” time to get other things done just as quickly and effectively.

Average people allow time to impose its will on them; remarkable people impose their will on their time.

2. The people around me are the people I chose.

Some of your employees drive you nuts. Some of your customers are obnoxious. Some of your friends are selfish, all-about-me jerks.

You chose them. If the people around you make you unhappy it’s not their fault. It’s your fault. They’re in your professional or personal life because you drew them to you–and you let them remain.

Think about the type of people you want to work with. Think about the types of customers you would enjoy serving. Think about the friends you want to have.

Then change what you do so you can start attracting those people. Hardworking people want to work with hardworking people. Kind people like to associate with kind people.

Successful people are naturally drawn to successful people.

3. I have never paid my dues.

Dues aren’t paid, past tense. Dues get paid, each and every day. The only real measure of your value is the tangible contribution you make on a daily basis.

No matter what you’ve done or accomplished in the past, you’re never too good to roll up your sleeves, get dirty, and do the grunt work.  No job is ever too menial, no task ever too unskilled or boring.

Remarkably successful people never feel entitled–except to the fruits of their labor.

4. Experience is irrelevant. Accomplishments are everything.

You have “10 years in the Web design business.” Whoopee. I don’t care how long you’ve been doing what you do. Years of service indicate nothing; you could be the worst 10-year programmer in the world.

I care about what you’ve done: how many sites you’ve created, how many back-end systems you’ve installed, how many customer-specific applications you’ve developed (and what kind)… all that matters is what you’ve done.

Successful people don’t need to describe themselves using hyperbolic adjectives like passionate, innovative, driven, etc.

Remarkably successful people don’t need to use any adjectives at all. They can just describe, hopefully in a humble way, what they’ve done.

5. Failure is something I accomplish; it doesn’t just happen to me.

Ask people why they have been successful. Their answers will be filled with personal pronouns: I, me, and the sometimes too occasional we.

Ask them why they failed. Most will revert to childhood and instinctively distance themselves, like the kid who says, “My toy got broken…” instead of, “I broke my toy.”

They’ll say the economy tanked. They’ll say the market wasn’t ready. They’ll say their suppliers couldn’t keep up.

They’ll say it was someone or something else.

And by distancing themselves, they don’t learn from their failures.

Occasionally something completely outside your control will cause you to fail. Most of the time, though, it’s you. And that’s okay. Every successful person has failed. Numerous times. Most of them have failed a lot more often than you. That’s why they’re successful now.

Embrace every failure: Own it, learn from it, and take full responsibility for making sure that next time, things will turn out differently.

6. Volunteers always win.

Whenever you raise your hand you wind up being asked to do more.

That’s great. Doing more is an opportunity: to learn, to impress, to gain skills, to build new relationships–to do something more than you would otherwise been able to do.

Success is based on action. The more you volunteer, the more you get to act. Successful people step forward to create opportunities.

Remarkably successful people sprint forward.

7. As long as I’m paid well, it’s all good.

Specialization is good. Focus is good. Finding a niche is good.

Generating revenue is great.

Anything a customer will pay you a reasonable price to do–as long as it isn’t unethical, immoral, or illegal–is something you should do. Your customers want you to deliver outside your normal territory? If they’ll pay you for it, fine. They want you to add services you don’t normally include? If they’ll pay you for it, fine. The customer wants you to perform some relatively manual labor and you’re a high-tech shop? Shut up, roll ’em up, do the work, and get paid.

Only do what you want to do and you might build an okay business. Be willing to do what customers want you to do and you can build a successful business.

Be willing to do even more and you can build a remarkable business.

And speaking of customers…

8. People who pay me always have the right to tell me what to do.

Get over your cocky, pretentious, I-must-be-free-to-express-my-individuality self. Be that way on your own time.

The people who pay you, whether customers or employers, earn the right to dictate what you do and how you do it–sometimes down to the last detail.

Instead of complaining, work to align what you like to do with what the people who pay you want you to do.

Then you turn issues like control and micro-management into non-issues.

9. The extra mile is a vast, unpopulated wasteland.

Everyone says they go the extra mile. Almost no actually one does. Most people who go there think, “Wait… no one else is here… why am I doing this?” and leave, never to return.

That’s why the extra mile is such a lonely place.

That’s also why the extra mile is a place filled with opportunities.

Be early. Stay late. Make the extra phone call. Send the extra email. Do the extra research. Help a customer unload or unpack a shipment. Don’t wait to be asked; offer. Don’t just tell employees what to do–show them what to do and work beside them.

Every time you do something, think of one extra thing you can do–especially if other people aren’t doing that one thing. Sure, it’s hard.

But that’s what will make you different.

And over time, that’s what will make you incredibly successful.

Jeff Haden learned much of what he knows about business and technology as he worked his way up in the manufacturing industry. Everything else he picks up from ghostwriting books for some of the smartest leaders he knows in business. @jeff_haden

 

appreciate: the northwest & the roe’s

15 Jun

i love my family  

and not just my immediate family but all my cousins and aunts and uncles.  it is such a shame we are so spread out across the country.  from steve, brad and lori in oregon to britt and kirsten in southern cal to clay, lindy and sally in columbus, ohio are all such great people to hang out with whenever i get the chance. 

last year, ROF and i went to portland and got the opportunity to stay at my cousin brad’s house with his wife jane and their two adorable boys.  this was the view from their house (i’m not joking):

 and that is not a fake.  that is mt. hood and that is the heaven that they look at every day.  what a treat to even spend one night there!

jane, brad’s wonderful wife, sent me one of her family’s favorite places for dinner.  so read on and if you’re ever in their neck of the woods, be sure to check it out!  thanks jane.

Here are some pictures of my favorite place:  Char Burger, in Cascade Locks.   I’ve been going there since I can remember.   When my parents & I would take a trip to Portland to come visit my grandma, we would stop for lunch or at least an ice cream cone.
The view is beautiful & there are many indian artifacts hanging on the walls including many other old time farming memorabilia and cowboy things.   Now, we only live about 1/2 hour away.  We went recently for Mothers Day ….  our favorite thing is probably the cream pies or berry pies.   Mexican burger or the swiss mushroom burgers are great too!

this is my cousin brad – jane’s husband!

look at hayden’s strawberry pie! wow!

loving:on-line magazines

8 Jun

once again, for your weekend reading enjoyment, i’m featuring some fantastic magazines that are on-line now.  flip your screen view on FULL SCREEN and rip through these pages because there is some good stuff!

1. matchbook – june edition is red hot!  i love all the features here.

2. sweet paul.  this one is new to me and oh so fun to breeze through!  144 pages of lush colors and ideas.  paul started writing a blog

but then morphed into an on-line magazine.  so you get both – the blog and the magazine.

these are cookies!

3. and here is my beloved domino magazine resurrected on-line in the form of lonny.

4. lastly there is rue magazine.  there are probably a lot more, so not really “lastly”.  super bright and cheery.  i love this one a lot.  check it out.

appreciating this: be good to yourself, for once

7 Jun

we all need to hear some kind words.

and sometimes you need to be the one who needs to say them

to yourself.

see if you can pick up what i’m putting down here. happy almost friday!

hope that felt good! rinse, rewind and repeat as necessary.

all these great images and where they came from are on my “words” board on pinterest here

appreciating life: cool things i stumbled upon

4 Jun

every now and then i stumble on to some really cool things, using the website stumble upon.  here is a carefully curated list for your reading and exploring enjoyment.

1. top ten travel apps.

 check out this site – i hadn’t heard of half of these!  especially the postcard app.  super duper coolio, man

2. hobby quiz

click here for a cute quiz for you to take with your sig other.  nice!

3. brilliant iPhone case AND credit card holder.

4. this without a doubt, is one of the most creative brunch display’s i’ve ever seen!  makes me hungry looking at it.

 

 

appreciating it: new outlooks

2 Jun

so my blog is coming back big and bold for those of you who think i’ve gotten a bit lackadaisical in my blogging lately.

 

 

i don’t blame you for thinking that.  it could be true.  as much as i love writing and being creative and thinking, blogging can get tricky.  let me try and explain.

it’s very “outward” and controlled.  

what that means is this… just like tv, movies, magazines, digital things – you are only getting one side of the story and it is the “most perfect side”.  follow me?  let’s use my beloved barefoot contessa as an example.  i think i love her because her cooking show, her interviews, story – everything portrays a per-fect life.  oh, let’s go clip some herbs from my garden, lets drive down to the market to see david where he’ll kill a chicken fresh for me, let’s hop over to paris where i speak french en peu.  i love it.

you see i’ve always wanted to be that way.  ever since the brady bunch tv show.  i was 10 or 11 and i’d ask my mom why our house didn’t look like their house.  she’d say “because it’s a tv show” and i never quite grasped that concept. 

what i want to see or read is an article titled “the barefoot contessa becomes unraveled!”.  mind you, i don’t mean that i want something bad to happen – i just want to see the underbelly.  not literally, but you’re picking up what i’m putting down, right?   i want to see her pour flour into the mixer and have it splatter on her face (hello…always happens, right?)  i want jeffery, her beloved, come into the kitchen and pinch her butt.  i want an entire show on bloopers and practical jokes.  i want her friends to streak across her backyard when she is showing us how to lay charcoal just the right way in the grill.  i’d like her to drop a pickle on the floor, brush it off and pop it in her mouth.

that, to me, is way more interesting and real.

but i don’t yet buy into my own ideals in this regard.  i want to appear to have it all together.  but i never do. and it’s a constant disappointment.  and i’m learning that …

that’s life.  that’s real.

back to writing a blog.  see my pictures, read my witty persiflage, see how perfect things are.  i just don’t want that.  

and i’m going to admit it right now in front of my millions of readers.  just like bene brown tells me too.  being vulnerable is much more admirable and harder than being like everyone else.  for example:

1. i wait until my nails absolutely need it before getting them done.

2. sometimes i have one or two glasses of wine past the recommended amount.

3. i moved a desk the other day and there was a vent that looked like it hadn’t been cleaned since the house was built 82 years ago.

4. occasionally, i like to stay in my pjs all day long.

5. i have left the house without showering before.  yep. and gone to nordstrom.

6. i made dinner for company and made mini meat loaves and put them on a flat sheet with no edge.   all the grease ran over the edge and filled the kitchen with smoke.  hey, made a good memory!

i’m sure the list could go on and on and on.  but i don’t really want you to know all my imperfections.  yet.  we’ll leave those to be undiscovered later.

can’t wait to share with you in the upcoming posts things i appreciate. 

happy happy friday, everyone!

18 May

before you die

9 May

appreciating a great tumblr site i stumbled upon.

it is great visuals matched with a TON of things this person wants to do before they die.  it is called the perfect bucket list.  i believe that you can request things but i can’t figure that out yet.  it’s really fun to look through.  check it out here.  

pin-spirations

6 May

ah, sunday.

anticipation – some good and some bad of the week to come.  what will it hold?  good news/bad news, surprises?  will i keep my goals and objectives or will i get off track and will i be ok with that?  we don’t know do we?

if i don’t watch it, anticipation can turn into anxiety.  

so sometimes i turn to pinterest for inspiration.  cheap therapy!  here is what is inspiring me now:

this is a mirror made out of the top of a barrel.  i think this is too cool!  i love unique pieces like this.

i think these are the cutest wine bottle stops from anthropology.  of course who ever needs one of these?

you know what a woody fan i am.  this poster would look good in my pretend office.

i love how creative some people are.

come to mama.

seriously, i nearly went off my rocker when i saw this website.  go here.  you’ll love it, bebe.

 

yes.  this is true.  time for mad men!  until next week!

i’ll have a better post tomorrow.

28 Apr

these are the things i can do (or am doing now) instead of what i’m supposed to be doing:

write a blog post about procrastination

transfer music from one computer to another

pinterest

facebook

organize photos

water the plants

text friends

hang out

pretend to be thinking about what I’m supposed to be working on

pinterest

pet max

talk to mom

clean dishwasher

day 3ish travels

14 Apr

no cell service on this indian reservation-turned resort.

was in cleveland, ohio yesterday, denver the day before and today finds me in between albuquerque and santa fe, new mexico. ROF picked me up at the airport at 8pm and we drove west to amarillo and arrived at 2am.

the next day, we went to a really cool art display of caddies driven into the ground called ‘cadillac ranch’. but my favorite part was taking old route 66 and seeing the unbelievable deserted hotels. it was all i could do not to tear down one of these motel signs. as you can see i had fun putting these together in my photo apps. ROF’s favorite part was the transition of scenery from west texas into mountainous new mexico

this is the view out our window this morning:

this was our view at 6pm last night, a shared tequilla patron sampler

have a great weekend!

appreciating: photo apps: all the secrets!

31 Mar

i’m so addicted to my photo apps on my iphone.

i’m pretty blown away at what you can do on your phone.  now the iphone (and prob others) have a better camera than digital cameras.  all of these apps above are simply awesome.

first there is instagram.  you’re all already probably pretty hip to instagram.  you can upload your photo and choose like 20 different filters for it.  this is where i start.

max with instagram app

then the picture is saved to my phone and i pull it up in my next favorite app -LoMob.

i can’t say enough about LoMob.  really sweet filters that are different from intagram.  i’m into layering photo apps.  this is max on one of the options on LoMob:

max with instagram and layered in LoMob

here he is on another:

then i pull the photo up in EASY TITLER.  this allows you to write in a ton of font choices on your photo.  It looks like this:

i love this app!  then you can pull together several photos in diptic.  there are a ton of options in diptic.  in the case below, i first did diptic and then pulled it up in EASY TITLER:

so here are some photos i took this morning of the house and ran then through the apps:

enjoy!  let me know if you want any help!

 

dreaming of taking off

29 Mar

is that wrong to say?

i mean it’s such a big deal to be so busy nowadays.  at work at 7am, staying till 7pm, travel here, travel there, phone buzzing, ringing, pinging.  can’t meet with you until may, june, july.  busy for some reason has gotten the bad rap of meaning productive or maybe even – dare i say – popular.

i’m one to always try and bump the norm but i don’t do too well in this regards.  i fall into the busy trap.  i read an article once that really caught my attention.  it said that we train our minds and ourselves to work at a certain level.  that sucks.  i’ve totally done that.  i run best when running hard… or busy.

let’s stop.

let’s stop being busy and putting ourselves second, third, fourth or fifth.  let’s banish the phrase “i haven’t used all my vacation days and it’s december and i have 22 days left”.  that is not to be rewarded.  everyone needs to recharge, rejuice and revive.  ya know why?  because all you’re being busy for is this:

i will never forget being at my dad’s funeral – 7 years ago this September – and seeing all the GM folks and thinking back on how work ruled my dad’s life.  moving us to 8 different cities, always on voice mail (that was the thing back then) during vacations (!), stressed about this and stressed about that (kind of sounds like me, harumph).  i remember screaming in my head- HEY GUYS WE’LL ALL BE HERE ONE DAY!  DON’T FORGET!

but we do forget and … we get busy and time goes by.  i don’t want to live that way but i think the problem is that there aren’t a lot of alternatives.  yet.   when i get some time, i’ll try and think of some.

check out these places to relax.  nice…

is anyone going anywhere fun?

mad for these mad men looks

25 Mar

what’s not to not like about mad men?  being in advertising, i can assure you that not much has changed since the 60’s. 

just kidding.

plenty has changed.  oh those were the days…  i wouldn’t know (except for watching the show) HOW OLD DO YOU THINK I AM ANYWAY?

i’m mad for this show and not just the fashion…. here’s what i love:

1. the smoking.  i know – smoking is gross and bad for you.  i know, ok?  

but you didn’t know that back then!  what a great accessory.  something to twirl around your fingers as you coyly wait for him to take out his lighter and light your smoke for you.  something to show your anger by exhaling with drama and throwing the smoke to the ground with a stomp.  or just simply something to do at the bar waiting for your martini…

2. don draper.  

the bad boy you hate to love.  secret-keeper, womanizer & egotistical – perfect ingredients for the consummate ad man.  this scene is so fantastic.  it is what everyone thinks of when you think of advertising – pitching an ad campaign.  emotional and passionate.  love it.

 

3. peggy.

making it on madison avenue with the big boys and doing it the right way.  of course there was that sad slip up in season one with peter campbell, but she moves from secretary to don to copy writer and one of don’s core people and confidants.  go peggy!

4. the style.

i love the dresses and anything joan wears.  what great vintage looks!  i also love how people got dressed up for work.  would be a pain, but still fun.  you know why it wasn’t a pain back then to dress up for work?  you had more time.  you weren’t so REACHABLE.  your stupid cell phone wasn’t ringing or buzzing or texting every minute.  when you left in the morning – you were at work and when you came home, you were home.  so you had time to get dressed up.  that’s my theory and i’m sticking to it!

in big anticipation of tonight’s comeback of mad men on amc after a 17 month break, i’m appreciating all the shows that glamorize my profession.  maybe i can coast on the vibe for a while even though you couldn’t pay me to live back in that day and time!

hope you’re all tuning in.  if not, order season’s 1 – 4 now on netflix and settle in for a summer of fun then catch up to us.

can luxury be accessible?

19 Mar

it sure can!

at least on april 21 from 7pm – 10pm it will be when the dallas event “accessible luxury” takes place at ‘park place premier collection’ benefiting the wonderful scottish rite hospital in dallas. 

do you know what scottish rite hospital does for children all over texas?

TSRHC treats texas children with orthopedic conditions, such as scoliosis, clubfoot, hand disorders, hip disorders and limb length differences, as well as certain related neurological disorders and learning disorders, such as dyslexia.  scottish rite has treated more than 200,000 children since it opened its doors in 1921 (!)

so come to the event on april 21st with me! 

click here for more info.

i can tell you what i’m excited about the most:

RUNWAY SHOW

helloooo….Oscar de la Renta fashions will be taking the runway at 8 p.m. featuring Model Citizens and Campbell-Wagner models.

BUBBLE ROOM

sip champagne and check out the gems from eiseman jewels. browse the collection of texas native and jewelry designer katie decker.

ROF is going to dig this!

MASERATI MAN CAVE: cavern showcasing Beretta’s polished apparel and gear awaits you for an evening of luxury cars, specialty drinks and hand-rolled cigars.

all for a fantastic cause!

appreciating all over the place

19 Mar

little snippets of appreciation from my past week.

it was a great week last week having not traveled at all, i got to catch up with some friends i haven’t seen in a long time. i’m in fargo, north dakota tonight getting ready for a meeting, so here are some highlights from the week:

totally love ROF for treating me to a superb dinner friday night out and then at home sat night where we snuggled and watched: rear window//movie as part of our AFI challenge (you can read about that here!)

have a great week and don’t forget to realize that you are really blessed right now.

7am saturday sweet brew

10 Mar

the best day and time of the week is 7am on saturday morning.  now that i’m old, i am actually awake to hear the first bird churp the morning song.  it means it’s time soon to stream – via apple tv – chicago’s 93xrt radio station and listen to saturday morning flashback (ROF is uncanningly good at guessing the year before they say it)

this morning i thought about

my love affair with coffee.  it started when i was attending columbia college on michigan avenue in chicago.  my neighbor in naperville actually opened a coffee store on michigan avenue (in chicago place) and i worked there during my sophomore year.  it was quite a venture for her as a non-entrepreneur – opening a coffee shop on arguably one of the best well-known shopping streets in the country. hell0… cha ching…i’m just sayin’.

i didn’t necessarily like to drink coffee – i did – but that’s not why i liked it.  i romanticized it all out of proportion (i stole that line from woody allen’s opening monologue in manhattan.)  i love all the words that go along with coffee like brew, vanilla, steep, chicory, espresso, dark roast, latte, mug, cinnamon, morning, pick-me-up, clutch, auto-timer (ok, i like more what that does vs. the word)

i just liked the idea of it.  of course, i was smoking at the start of my love affair with coffee.  many of you would say ewww gross but truly…sigh… being 23 going to school in downtown chicago, drinking coffee at an outside cafe’ and smoking a marlboro light was just the breakfast of champions (and oh so french).  i could do that because at that age, i was for sure invincible.  going to school and being facinated with advertising and marketing and life.  it was all real good.

back then i was obsessed with paris too. 

so welcome saturday morning.  let’s all brew a great cup of joe and look forward to a great day ahead.

these photos, their credits and more breakfast goodies can be found on my pinterest board here.

facebook friends

1 Mar

so kicking off a short series called facebook friends.  i had this idea when i had pneumonia.  i’ve so enjoyed (appreciated) reconnecting with friends but it is such a shallow connection in a way – sometimes.  so i decided to dig a little deeper.

today, i’m talking to jill wenta.  jill is married to gerald who was (is!) a  friend of mine at the end of high school and through college and beyond.  jill and i went to the same high school but gerald went to another school.  gerald was actually the first person i met when i moved to naperville from milwaukee when i was going to be a junior in high school.  so happy to get to know  jill better  & reconnect with gerald.  they have a fantastic family (including a bulldog!!)

thanks for sharing, jill!

the wentas

1. how do you know “the appreciator” ?

Amy is the first friend of Gerald’s that I met when we started dating. We were on our way to a party and stopped to have a drink before.

2. tell us a little bit about your family.  include details like work, what you do for fun together?

We have been blessed with two beautiful boys to raise and one beautiful son in heaven to watch over us. Gerald, the boys & I love family time. We like to bike, hike, camp, road trip, the beach, and just hanging out at home. Gerald and I both graduated with a degree in Landscaping. We have owned our own landscape business in South Florida for 12 years.

3. what are three passions you have as a family and/or individually.

We all love to take road trips together. Our animals are very much a part of our family ~they go on trips with us if possible, and all of us really enjoy anything outdoors.

4. tell us about a favorite party you’ve thrown

Any social gathering that we have with friends is  always casual. To us, the most important part is enjoying the time with them and catching up after weeks of crazy busy schedules!

5. if your family had to vote on a favorite, homemade dinner, what would it be?

Steak, mashed potatoes, broccoli & a yummy chocolate dessert

6. do you have any vacation plans this year?

No, we are very spontaneous. Because we own our own business we need to schedule trips around landscape installations. We do like to take quick weekend trips close to home.

7. if your family could have starred in any movie which movie would you have wanted to star in?

Christmas Vacation!

8. what is the best room in your house?

The main area of our house is a TV room/ dinning room/ kitchen ~ it’s all one big open area. We LOVE it because no matter where we are we are together. If it gets loud we send the boys to their playroom.

9. what is a fun tradition or routine that you have?

Watching Christmas Vacation and Elf,  over and over again, during the holidays. Also, when the boys were in the same school, Gerald would take them to get donuts before school on Friday mornings.

10. lastly, what are three favorite (chose one): websites/music/quotes/recipes you can share?

God only gives you what you can handle even if it takes you a really long time to understand why~ Me

Don’t cry b/c it’s over. Smile b/c it happened~ Dr. Suess

Feeling gratitude and not expressing it is like wrapping a present and not giving it~ William Arthur Ward

you have options & turbulence is good

29 Feb

i’m going to be kind of all over the place. i’m sitting in chicago o’hare airport waiting to board a flight this morning and just reminiscing about a nasty email i received yesterday. why do we laser focus in on the negative and brush by the positive? there is this little voice inside my head that has been there for a while that i need to start to listen to

you have choices.

in this case, i have a choice on how much space i want to give this email in my head. in this case. just a little.

so many times we feel locked in a situation, locked in a routine, locked in because “that’s just the way we are” or locked into a negative remark or assumption someone has made about you. that’s so powerful. i think of remarks my dad made to my mom, that she was not a “planner” and i think that actually she was but because he said that so often, she began to believe she wasn’t.

SIDE BAR: people think i’m weird because i like turbulence on an airplane. flying to me is such evidence that there is a God because i feel so close to him when i fly. and a little turbulence doesn’t scare me but jolts me out of my “locked position” of my daily routine of flying. it makes me feel alive, a little vulnerable and in the moment. are you seeing how locked position, you have choices and turbulence all work together?

sometimes we need to be jolted out of our locked position of safety – what we know- to realize HEY WAIT! I don’t have to put up with this! I have choices.

how great is it to be an American, huh?

off to my plane… hope you have a great day.

i want what i want when i want it

25 Feb

what do you want?

I’ve been challenged by a handsome fellow whom shall remain nameless with the question WHAT DO YOU WANT?

that question is not pertaining to marriage, but it could.  what do you want?

with your health?  
with your house?
with your career?
with your family?
where do you want to go on vacation

do you have that voice in you?  or has it been smooshed out?   you may think “that’s ok, i’m a mom/dad and i’m now about my kids and my husband/wife”.  having done no research on this answer, i will say that you’re wrong.  the only way anyone around you can grow and learn from you is if you know who YOU IS.  say that 5x fast.    it’s a hard question to answer the older you get.  i think your hopes, dreams and wishes get a little smuggled.  even i struggle with that question.  and i have a strong point of view on things.

the question is not:

what do you think is right
what do you think your spouse will like the most
what have you always done
what do you know
what is in
what is cool
can you do it
does it make sense

it’s what do you want.  the reason that question is so hard to answer is because in order to answer it, you need to be vulnerable.  you need to be able to put it out there and not pull it back if it gets criticized – after all it’s what you want.

ok, so i’ve put together a little test for you.  you need to answer the following questions but the deal is this – you need to answer honestly WHAT DO YOU WANT (promise me):

the best vacation in the world would involve these three things:

if you could be anything in the world, what would you be?

my perfect day would play out like this…

you have $1000 to spend on yourself, what do you buy for yourself?

i’d love to hear your answers.  put them in the comments below or email them to me.

love the magazine fast company and found a great article on why this is so challenging.  read it, you’ll like it!

making the perfect souffle and other missed resolutions

20 Feb

alright.  so it’s almost the end of february and i need a do-over.

might have been a leetle zealous with the new years resolutions.  first, there were the resolutions. then came “things i want to do in 2012”.  then finally, my post  do something for 30 days.

i forgot what i was going to do.   it is all too overwhelming now.  i’ve got plenty of excuses why too… went to vegas for sister’s birthday and got crazy. then came home and promptly got sick – pneumonia – and think i went a little brain dead in the meantime.  so do-over please.

in front of all of you, my fans, my supporters, my loyal reader (mom) i’m going to set up new things to accomplish this year.  and you can all hold me accountable.  i’m going to resolve to not call them resolutions.  i don’t know what to call them but let’s come up with something positive because sometimes i think that because you have resolutions it indicates that something is wrong with you that you have to fix.  and one of the hardest lessons for me to learn is that i’m loved just the way i am.   that phrase doesn’t mean you shouldn’t be constantly striving to learn and to improve yourself but it will always come back to this:

i’m already loved.

this goes much deeper than my husband loving me or my family.  it’s the kind of love that  fills that hole inside you that is so empty that you try to fill it with so many things:  food, over concentrating on your kids/job/self, drinking, and the list goes on.  if you want to know more about that, then click here.  otherwise let’s get back to the discussion at hand, shall we?

2012:

1. lose 50 pounds.  getting serious now.  i’m going to look really cute, so those that may be intimidated, watch out. i’ve got new gym shoes to show that i mean business.

2. make a perfect souffle. (they are low fat)

3. watch one TED video a week and document it.

4. to thine self be true.  take care of myself.  stop worrying or concentrating on other people’s happiness – get what i need for me to be successful/happy.  this will then rub off positively on ROF.

5. take a class that enhances this blog.  yep, i’m liking writing. 

6.  know where i want to be in 5 years.  this will take some time figuring out.  i’m really liking the idea of opening a modern day diner called griddlers -inspired by ROF’s really delicious grilled cheese sammies.

well, those goals don’t look so different from my original ones, but i feel so much more organized now.

t-shirt quilts

18 Feb

my sister-in-law made these two beautiful quilts out of t-shirts.-

these are great to throw on a bed or wrap up in on a chilly evening

i think these are incredible! sarah, susan’s daughter, was a chi omega at ohio university and had a ton of tees that held great memories for her. to tie them all together in one place is a brilliant idea! check this quilt out. click on the picture to make it bigger.

then she made a gift for some friends of her son this quilt made from t-shirts of the colleges and schools that their kids attended. they have it at their lake house.

don’t you have a ton of t-shirts you want to keep because of good memories but are taking too much room in your closet?

insta artwork

17 Feb

i love instagram – the app that let’s you take pictures and transform them to fantastic pieces of art – all on my cell phone.  really not a huge need to even have a digital camera now.  here are some of my shots.

liking: clean white design

3 Feb

some may say white is boring…

i say pshaw.

i would describe my style as eclectic, modern vintage with a twist of odd. or raised eyebrow. if a piece of art makes me go “hmmmmm” that typically means i’m warm towards it. but off the subject we go.

today i want to talk white. i love waking up surrounded with white sheets, white duvet and white pillow cases. if it were up to me white would be the blank canvas in which to view everything. pops of color that can be changed out every now and again are good too.

this first picture actually speaks to all above interests:

from houzz.com

yes, the photo is a bit haunting but interesting nonetheless. if i were to design my own room, this is what i would choose. click on any photo to make bigger:

check this out at spunkysprout.com - it's for kids!

here are some more white rooms i’m digging right now. all can be found here on my pinterest board.

of course i like more than just white.

click here for my post on orange! or even green.

appreciating: 30 days to change

2 Feb

well, well, well… we’re already into february

and here i am still thinking about resolutions. luckily, i watched this short TED video that lent a new spin on it all for me. it’s about trying something new for 30 days. i dig it because it’s a fresh thought on a resolution. first watch this before we discuss more:

ok, so now the challenge.

30 days are going to go by no matter what. why not feel real good about the end of those 30 days? before we talk about our own ideas, i went to matt’s website to get an idea of what he has done for 30 days. here is what he has done:

1. grew a mustache in 30 days

2. learned 30 new words

3. didn’t check email after 10pm

4. thankful for one thing every day

5. read the new testament of the bible

6. meditated

7. no twitter for a month (yikes!)

8. no TV

9. wrote a novel

10. rode bike to work

you can see more here

this idea of 30 days scares me

because i always have great ideas but follow-through is a problem with me. being somewhat fairly newly married – the fact that i’m actually accountable to someone else has revealed a certain vulnerability in me in regards to follow-through. there has been several examples of this but most recently and notably the groupon example. i bought a groupon last october for the YMCA in dallas for a low rate of $29 to use through December 31st. what a deal. right? wrong. i might as well just flung $29 out the window of my car in the direction of the Y. didn’t go once. now, sweet ROF, does not ever call these things to my attention. which i appreciate (it’s not just a blog…) but now i’m very uber conscience about following through.

what should I do for 30 days? for february?

i’ve given it some thought. not asking for a vote here. i am going to drink 5 glasses of water a day AND i’m going to finish a book. yes, i know that you are supposed to have 8 glasses of water a day. thank you oprah for reminding me. but i barely get in an ounce with my vitamins in the morning.

the big question here is… WHAT ARE YOU GOING TO DO FOR 30 DAYS??

please tell me in the comment section below…


appreciating: m’lord & m’lady

21 Jan

so are you hip to the pbs show ‘downton abbey’ yet? 

get with it & quick!  they are currently 3 shows into season 2 but i got season 1 on itunes or you can buy it or rent it on netflix.  i downloaded it to my iphone and watched the episodes in HD on the plane over the past 2 weeks.  lovely that there aren’t any commercials!  i kind of wish we had to call each other m’lord and m’lady like they do.  not really.    take a watch of this:

typically, i’m not into that period drama stuff like my sister – but i have to tell you i’m hooked.  maggie smith is just brilliant and the writing -witty, sharp and the story line very fresh.  here is a little snippet from pbs.com

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appreciating: good advice

15 Jan

so it’s been a while since i’ve talked with you.

i was in detroit all last week and used the weekend to re-juice so i can be gone again this week.  as with everything, it is important to plan.  plan the food you’re going to eat, the exercise your going to get, the money you’re going to save and… the blogs you’re going to write.  i haven’t done that yet but will.

so i was flattered and excited to get an email this week from someone asking me out to lunch to get some thoughts and advice.  it’s made me think a lot about a lot of things.  how much i miss mentoring – don’t get to do it a lot with my current job as i’m on the road all the time.  but mostly it’s made me think about all the great advice i’ve received in 20 years of being in the ad business.  that’s what i want to talk about and remember here.

as a side note, i also wanted to mention that nowadays, with technology changing as much and as quickly as it is, i’ve always made a point to stay relevant.  sometimes that’s translated as the older you get the less relevant you are.  but being 42, i can see now that while it is great to be young and smart and energetic – they lack one thing that only time can give – experience.  so if you’re young, remember that you don’t know it all until you’ve done it all (or even a little bit of it) and been able to learn along the way.

so back to the advice

1.  a college professor told us that in order to get anything out of class, you had to sit up front.  you are forced to pay attention when you sit in the front row.  i totally have done that ever since (GEEK!) but it does work.  i don’t tell ROF that in church i really yearn to sit up towards the front couple of rows but i do.  i figure if it’s worth your time, it’s worth paying attention and if you know me – that’s hard sometimes.  need all the help i can get.

2. this advice you wouldn’t hear much anymore, unfortunately.  i think so many managers are afraid of being micro-managers and therefore do a lot of assuming.  i had one of the quirkiest but best bosses ever when i was about 24 years old.  i was an account coordinator and worked for an account executive doing pretty much what my company does today – working with buick dealer groups all over the country.  this boss told me stuff like: never chew gum when around a client – EVER, don’t park in the front of the client’s place of business and put on lipstick or make-up, always drive the area around the dealership and look for conversation points to make with your client like: do you get fleet business from XXX across the street,  looks like you’re building on out back how is that going, etc…

3. this same boss also taught me something that i didn’t really pick up for a while.  it’s important to be yourself when you’re with clients.  this sounds so stupid like ‘no shit’ but think about it.  he didn’t drink and although he used to drink and could easily be influenced to drink – he decided that was not the kind of AE that he wanted to be.  so he didn’t.  it didn’t stop him from “going out to drinks” or letting his clients drink the night away – he didn’t.  because he liked to work out early in the morning.  so that was his boundary he set with himself and his clients.  and if you knew our clients – you would know how hard that would be.  also, when you’re a young director or executive and you’re looking to impress your clients, you tend to mimic them a little.  the lesson?  people will respect you for your differences as much as they’ll bond with you on your similarities.  people that matter, that is.

4. “you take direction great, but in order for you to grow, you need to take initiative”

this advice has shaped my entire career and life.  this was from a boss at an internship i did in a fashion photography studio in chicago.  i respected her for telling me the hard things.  there are people that will do exactly what you tell them.  they may do exactly what they know but they do not take initiative to think things all the way through or go the extra mile or even suggest a completely different direction.  this advice meant one thing to me as a 22 year old and means something different to me at 42 – 20 years later.  it’s not about speaking out of turn or “being heard” it’s about seeing a need and filling it without being asked.  this is when you know you’re playing in a different league from the rest.

5. always have a POINT OF VIEW

another piece of advice i got when i was about 34 years old and running an office of 7 people.  i remember exactly where i was when i got this tidbit and it wasn’t directed at me.   it was at our entire table/office.  but this struck me as a unique selling proposition for yourself as a business person.  this isn’t spew your thoughtless opinion of everything out to everyone (yikes) – this is to really think through something and come out with a thoughtful POV.  this translated for me into a smart media strategy for my clients.  this gave me the passion to believe in what i was doing and i believe my clients trusted me for the direction they were looking for.  this also takes place around the table at a dinner party.  know what the worlds events are and decide what your point of view is.  it is even more fun if you are just discovering your POV and can discuss what you’re thinking.

6. the art of the conversation is ALWAYS about talking about someone else

i consider one of my strong points talking to people i don’t know.  it wasn’t really until recently that i realized that not everyone likes it as much as i do.  or i guess feels as comfortable.  but here are some tips i’ve learned from the best along the way.  first, know that everyone likes talking about themselves and they will almost like you instantly if you ask them questions right off the bat.  the secret here is that you need to genuinely be interested in hearing the response and being able to react.  this is where my improv lessons at second city in chicago came in handy.  but we’ll come back to that.  keep asking away.  what is a really fun conversation is when you meet someone for the first time and they know this secret and then you just have this great back and forth interaction (otherwise called a conversation).  unfortunately, lots of people will just answer and answer and answer and really not even think to ask you about yourself.   my mom has actually told me before that she will have had an hour long conversation with someone and they not once have asked about her.  UN-believable.  now that she has pointed it out, it’s hard not to notice!  here are some good questions to ask someone you’ve never met:

– how long have you been doing this, coming here, friends with so-so ….?

– are you originally from <insert city>?

– do you have any vacations planned this year?

you get the picture.  and if you like talking about yourself so much – START A BLOG!  then you can blah blah blah all over the place 🙂

oh yeah, i almost forgot… my second city impov experience.  there was a game we played called “yes and…” and the point was that in improv was that you always have to keep the ball moving.  you have to give your team something to work from so no matter what you say – answer positively and then add to it and pass it on.  this is part of the art of answering questions – lots of great advice from improv class!  here is how that works:

WRONG WAY:

“do you have a vacation planned this year?”  bill asks energetically

“yes” bertha drops the ball and the conversation

RIGHT WAY:

“do you have a vacation planned this year?” bill asks energetically

“i do!  i’m going to costa rica in april.  and what about you? bertha gets a clue

of course, i’ve received so much more advice but it’s late and i’m flying out tomorrow again and i want to go be with ROF! 

hope you have a great week!