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Do you care what people think of you?

15 Apr

I’m on a girls trip in Florida this weekend and we’ve had some fun nights of “deep” questions to each other. One of the questions asked was “Do you care about what other people think of you?” I thought this was such a good question.  My first inclination was to shout “NO WAY!” but that would be a bold face lie.  How you answer this will most likely reflect your age. I believe the older you get, the less you care about what people think of you.

To me, it’s one of the biggest lessons we can learn from those more experienced than us.  Everyone wants to have friends and be liked but there is a difference between seeking those friends out by trying to please them and drawing people towards you because you are authentic and yourself.

I think sometimes people mistake caring about what people think about you for caring about yourself.  There’s a big difference.  One interesting thing I’ve read recently said that caring what people think about you actually shows a lack of self-love.   You get your approbation from other people.  And what’s wrong with that is that other people see life and things through their own filter and that may not be right.  Let’s just be so bold as to say, it won’t be right.  Instead of caring what others think, think more about yourself.

I’m no expert on the subject but I have been a perpetual people pleaser in the past. So in that regard, I can speak with authority on how completely imprisoning it can be to care about what people think about you. Thankfully, with age (and wisdom) I’m shifting my thinking.

And I don’t care what you think about that – ha!

Wayne Dyer said this on the subject: An important teacher of mine, Abraham Maslow, always counseled that it was necessary for the self-actualized individual to be “independent of the good opinion of others.” Listen to the voice you hear, and the drumbeat only you can feel, and honor it, while honoring it in those you love as well. It is the ultimate act of unconditional love. In being true to your inner calling, you may ruffle some feathers but you’ll have the peace and satisfaction of knowing that you fulfilled your divine purpose and encouraged others to do the same. Another brilliant nonconformist, Dr. Seuss, is credited with saying, “Be what you are and say what you feel because those who will mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind.”

So – do you care what others think of you?  Do you let it run your choices or do you make choices FOR YOUR BENEFIT?

music you must immediately add to playlist

30 May
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if you know me, which you may and may not, you know that one of the key tenets or drivers in my life is music.  always has been and always will be.  read here and here if you want to know more.
certain songs or albums hit repeat or epic status with me every now and then.  it’s those songs i can remember exactly what i was doing, who i was with and where i was.
ok. quit the small talk and get to it.
i’m in love again.
spoon’s new album (is it new? i’m usually a little late to the game!) is unbelievable.  but the song CAN I SIT NEXT TO YOU is epic.  i would love to link to the video but it’s a little weird.  but play it like, real loud.
in your headphones as you tackle the treadmill, as you commute in the grind,
as you stretch in the morning and say your morning THANK YOU FOR BEING ALIVE prayers.
ROF, be warned, this is the new foster the people repeat craziness you endured when we first got married.  
it’s in here if you want a listen:
back to the more important 10 WAYS TO SAVE THE WORLD reads.  i’m hoping to make your day brighter with this quick add.
happy tuesday!

encouragement for today

17 Sep

ok, so i went a little crazy on pinterest

this weekend and pulled some goodies.

it’s thursday, so read and be encouraged – or at least laugh!

make today a great day.  xoxo

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pin-spirations

6 May

ah, sunday.

anticipation – some good and some bad of the week to come.  what will it hold?  good news/bad news, surprises?  will i keep my goals and objectives or will i get off track and will i be ok with that?  we don’t know do we?

if i don’t watch it, anticipation can turn into anxiety.  

so sometimes i turn to pinterest for inspiration.  cheap therapy!  here is what is inspiring me now:

this is a mirror made out of the top of a barrel.  i think this is too cool!  i love unique pieces like this.

i think these are the cutest wine bottle stops from anthropology.  of course who ever needs one of these?

you know what a woody fan i am.  this poster would look good in my pretend office.

i love how creative some people are.

come to mama.

seriously, i nearly went off my rocker when i saw this website.  go here.  you’ll love it, bebe.

 

yes.  this is true.  time for mad men!  until next week!

be inspired! quotes to get through

30 Aug

middle of the week… can we make it till friday?  let’s read together some words of inspiration and be happy. 

click on any one to make it bigger.

 

all these are from my board on pinterest.  all credits can be found there

be inspired !

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