Archive | June, 2012

feeling appreciative

28 Jun

if you read my “bio” or whatever you call it in the upper right hand corner, you will see that i’m the appreciator because i wasn’t sure what to focus my blog on.  i started writing this for background info as part of my job – so that i would actually know how to do it.

how i came up with that idea of “the appreciator” is:

ROF and i were taking a walk through our neighborhood.  it was about a year ago now.  and as we’re walking i’m asking him what could my focus could be…because you know, you have to have a focus.  the conversation went a little bit like this:

“so i’m thinking of writing a blog” (me)

“really?  that’s cool.  about what?” (him)

“that’s the thing, i don’t know” (me)

“why do you want to do it?” (him)

“well, my CEO wants some information on writing a blog and i want to be able to say i know how…from my perspective” (me)

“ok.  well you are a good at a lot of things” (him)

“awe.  that’s sweet.  go on.  like what”  (digging for more…me)

“well, social media for one.  you love it, believe in it and know it.  (him)

“yeah.  but that’s work.  there’s more to me.  here’s the deal.  i appreciate nice music but i don’t write it.  i appreciate great design but i’m not a designer” (me)

“go on” (him)

“and i love DIY stuff but i don’t actually DIY” (me)

“and….” (him)

“and… i love photography but i don’t do it professionally.  love good food but don’t cook professionally – but i appreciate it all!” (me)

“i know” (me)

“i’m the appreciator” (me)

“there you have it” (him)

and there i had it.  so going back to the basics, here is the short list of things i appreciate.  

my relationship with God.  my Father and hard core foundation.  thank Him that i don’t struggle with “the meaning of life”.  i have it.

husband, ROF.  Sappy and all – he is whom i appreciate the most

mom & sister.  not a “given” they are built-in friends for life and beyond. soul-mates

awesome extended family.  susan, mike, mike, bill & sarah.  wonderful people whom i love being connected to (6 more days, susan!)

wonderful aunts & uncles & cousins – seriously fun people i wish we were all a lot closer

career and all the people who have supported me and taught me and pushed me to the limits (you know who you are)

career and all the people who believe in what we do and work hard to support “the cause”! (you know who you are A & S)

friends – you know who you are too

house, i never stop appreciating you

max and wrigley.  my babies.  i love you to death

flying all over the country

flying in first class

flying in first class on vacation with a bottle of red wine

playing gin with #1

cooking dinner with #1

clean cut grass

white sheets 

being organized

our new MAC computer suite (kiss kiss kiss)

massive storms when i’m with people i love or like a lot

massive storms when there is red wine involved to calm me down

colorado – feeling little teeny tiny in a land of big mountains and low valleys and knowing that man had nothing to do with the beauty

turbulence

poached eggs

the food network

mad men, damages, restaurant impossible, anthony bourdain

chevy dealers all over the country

the geigers in madison wisconsin

the dallas cowboys (ROF, stop laughing, i mean it)

the night before you go on vacation

the night before holidays

friends who surprise you on your anniversary by toilet papering your house at midnight and then ringing your doorbell while you’re watching ghost adventurers (EEKK!) and showing up with a bottle of good, no great, champagne.

knowing that your prayers are answered

central market and whole foods when no one else is in the store

church when you sing that hymn and it hits you in a way that you have to cry but no one knows your crying

remembering the feel of your dad’s hands and smiling at the thought of his “funny tooth”

a big Christmas dinner over at a big families’s house with lots of food, drinks, a bonfire and love

the east coast -hills and chills and history

woody allen

the movies: network, manhattan, annie hall, guess who came to dinner, manchurian candidate and more

good wine

bad wine

great music – house, electronic, rock, mix tapes, playlists, hip and cool

going out to eat

louie and louie’s

chicago

costa rica

the joule

making ROF coffee in the morning

are you still reading?

magazines and all the nuggets of information they contain

ideas and the execution of ideas

smart clients

smart people

passionate thinkers

forgiveness

ok, i’m tired now and i’m going to go.  this was not an exhaustive list by any means.

it felt good to capture some of this.  wish you would share with me some of the things you appreciate so i can too!

xxoo 

deep thoughts by the appreciator

27 Jun

i read this today and it’s really made me think:

“when you are gone, the ONLY thing you will leave behind is the memories you’ve created’

what goes through your mind when you hear that?  

read it. learn it. do it.

25 Jun

some may call this “mailing it in” and i’d agree.  except this is an exceptional article and some of you don’t tweet, so you didn’t see it.  so read it now.  and click on the link below to go to the actual article in INC magazine.  enjoy.  oh…and read…

from INC Magazine:

9 Beliefs of Remarkably Successful People

The most successful people in business approach their work differently than most. See how they think–and why it works.

Johnny Valley/Getty Images

 

I’m fortunate enough to know a number of remarkably successful people. Regardless of industry or profession, they all share the same perspectives and beliefs.

And they act on those beliefs:

1. Time doesn’t fill me. I fill time.

Deadlines and time frames establish parameters, but typically not in a good way. The average person who is given two weeks to complete a task will instinctively adjust his effort so it actually takes two weeks.

Forget deadlines, at least as a way to manage your activity. Tasks should only take as long as they need to take. Do everything as quickly and effectively as you can. Then use your “free” time to get other things done just as quickly and effectively.

Average people allow time to impose its will on them; remarkable people impose their will on their time.

2. The people around me are the people I chose.

Some of your employees drive you nuts. Some of your customers are obnoxious. Some of your friends are selfish, all-about-me jerks.

You chose them. If the people around you make you unhappy it’s not their fault. It’s your fault. They’re in your professional or personal life because you drew them to you–and you let them remain.

Think about the type of people you want to work with. Think about the types of customers you would enjoy serving. Think about the friends you want to have.

Then change what you do so you can start attracting those people. Hardworking people want to work with hardworking people. Kind people like to associate with kind people.

Successful people are naturally drawn to successful people.

3. I have never paid my dues.

Dues aren’t paid, past tense. Dues get paid, each and every day. The only real measure of your value is the tangible contribution you make on a daily basis.

No matter what you’ve done or accomplished in the past, you’re never too good to roll up your sleeves, get dirty, and do the grunt work.  No job is ever too menial, no task ever too unskilled or boring.

Remarkably successful people never feel entitled–except to the fruits of their labor.

4. Experience is irrelevant. Accomplishments are everything.

You have “10 years in the Web design business.” Whoopee. I don’t care how long you’ve been doing what you do. Years of service indicate nothing; you could be the worst 10-year programmer in the world.

I care about what you’ve done: how many sites you’ve created, how many back-end systems you’ve installed, how many customer-specific applications you’ve developed (and what kind)… all that matters is what you’ve done.

Successful people don’t need to describe themselves using hyperbolic adjectives like passionate, innovative, driven, etc.

Remarkably successful people don’t need to use any adjectives at all. They can just describe, hopefully in a humble way, what they’ve done.

5. Failure is something I accomplish; it doesn’t just happen to me.

Ask people why they have been successful. Their answers will be filled with personal pronouns: I, me, and the sometimes too occasional we.

Ask them why they failed. Most will revert to childhood and instinctively distance themselves, like the kid who says, “My toy got broken…” instead of, “I broke my toy.”

They’ll say the economy tanked. They’ll say the market wasn’t ready. They’ll say their suppliers couldn’t keep up.

They’ll say it was someone or something else.

And by distancing themselves, they don’t learn from their failures.

Occasionally something completely outside your control will cause you to fail. Most of the time, though, it’s you. And that’s okay. Every successful person has failed. Numerous times. Most of them have failed a lot more often than you. That’s why they’re successful now.

Embrace every failure: Own it, learn from it, and take full responsibility for making sure that next time, things will turn out differently.

6. Volunteers always win.

Whenever you raise your hand you wind up being asked to do more.

That’s great. Doing more is an opportunity: to learn, to impress, to gain skills, to build new relationships–to do something more than you would otherwise been able to do.

Success is based on action. The more you volunteer, the more you get to act. Successful people step forward to create opportunities.

Remarkably successful people sprint forward.

7. As long as I’m paid well, it’s all good.

Specialization is good. Focus is good. Finding a niche is good.

Generating revenue is great.

Anything a customer will pay you a reasonable price to do–as long as it isn’t unethical, immoral, or illegal–is something you should do. Your customers want you to deliver outside your normal territory? If they’ll pay you for it, fine. They want you to add services you don’t normally include? If they’ll pay you for it, fine. The customer wants you to perform some relatively manual labor and you’re a high-tech shop? Shut up, roll ’em up, do the work, and get paid.

Only do what you want to do and you might build an okay business. Be willing to do what customers want you to do and you can build a successful business.

Be willing to do even more and you can build a remarkable business.

And speaking of customers…

8. People who pay me always have the right to tell me what to do.

Get over your cocky, pretentious, I-must-be-free-to-express-my-individuality self. Be that way on your own time.

The people who pay you, whether customers or employers, earn the right to dictate what you do and how you do it–sometimes down to the last detail.

Instead of complaining, work to align what you like to do with what the people who pay you want you to do.

Then you turn issues like control and micro-management into non-issues.

9. The extra mile is a vast, unpopulated wasteland.

Everyone says they go the extra mile. Almost no actually one does. Most people who go there think, “Wait… no one else is here… why am I doing this?” and leave, never to return.

That’s why the extra mile is such a lonely place.

That’s also why the extra mile is a place filled with opportunities.

Be early. Stay late. Make the extra phone call. Send the extra email. Do the extra research. Help a customer unload or unpack a shipment. Don’t wait to be asked; offer. Don’t just tell employees what to do–show them what to do and work beside them.

Every time you do something, think of one extra thing you can do–especially if other people aren’t doing that one thing. Sure, it’s hard.

But that’s what will make you different.

And over time, that’s what will make you incredibly successful.

Jeff Haden learned much of what he knows about business and technology as he worked his way up in the manufacturing industry. Everything else he picks up from ghostwriting books for some of the smartest leaders he knows in business. @jeff_haden

 

live from pagosa COLORADO

21 Jun

too busy vacationing to write.  here is some eye candy for you:

lunch in durango

the house where we are staying – thank you Beckmans! love it here.

a bit of the view from the inside

lovely durango!

road to the house

bigger picture of the house where we’re staying

best husband/bartender/chef/card player

greetings from colorado

19 Jun

spending some quality time with some very quality folks in beautiful colorado. what an unbelievable blessing it has been to be able to do this two years in a row. i use the word “blessing” and not “lucky” because it ain’t “luck” that got us here to God’s country! we’re staying at some friend’s of ROF’s parent’s house and it is truly unbelievable.

i’ve needed this break for a while. i’ve needed it because i’m truly burnt out. is that PC to say? not too many people admit it when they are burnt out because maybe that is a sign of weakness but i don’t really care. i’m weak right now. so what, i bounce back.

i hate that i have the same goals and objectives for my vacation as i do for “real life”. i feel like i need to be accomplishing something every day. but my mom just said it best: ” i just want to hang out with you guys and have good conversation, play cards and maybe have a glass of wine or two.” just staring at the scenery has transported us. the picture above is one my sister took off the back porch. pretty amazing. here are some more pictures of our trip so far. ROF has made his amazing flank steak (we haven’t eaten meat in months!) and noodles. katie fixed a scrumptious breakfast of poachies this morning.

oh, forgot to tell you a BRILLIANT idea i had. it is based on something we did for a holiday and currently doing. each person has to bring two $25 gift certificates to anything. we then tape them up to a wall. we then play spades, like non-stop, and the winning team gets to pick a certificate – EACH! mom and i won round one and i picked a DSW shoe warehouse card and mom picked a BRAUM’S ice cream card. she orders a “chunky cappuccino chocolate chip in a waffle cone” from there every week and now she can get 16 of them for free thanks to this game. by the way, that was ROF who was thoughtful enough to get that card with her in mind. you woulda thought she’d won the lottery! so the idea is this… i’m going to bring cards back! i’m going to start a monthly thursday night card party at a local restaurant (louie’s side room?) and everyone has to bring XX and we play cards! will keep you posted.

appreciate: the northwest & the roe’s

15 Jun

i love my family  

and not just my immediate family but all my cousins and aunts and uncles.  it is such a shame we are so spread out across the country.  from steve, brad and lori in oregon to britt and kirsten in southern cal to clay, lindy and sally in columbus, ohio are all such great people to hang out with whenever i get the chance. 

last year, ROF and i went to portland and got the opportunity to stay at my cousin brad’s house with his wife jane and their two adorable boys.  this was the view from their house (i’m not joking):

 and that is not a fake.  that is mt. hood and that is the heaven that they look at every day.  what a treat to even spend one night there!

jane, brad’s wonderful wife, sent me one of her family’s favorite places for dinner.  so read on and if you’re ever in their neck of the woods, be sure to check it out!  thanks jane.

Here are some pictures of my favorite place:  Char Burger, in Cascade Locks.   I’ve been going there since I can remember.   When my parents & I would take a trip to Portland to come visit my grandma, we would stop for lunch or at least an ice cream cone.
The view is beautiful & there are many indian artifacts hanging on the walls including many other old time farming memorabilia and cowboy things.   Now, we only live about 1/2 hour away.  We went recently for Mothers Day ….  our favorite thing is probably the cream pies or berry pies.   Mexican burger or the swiss mushroom burgers are great too!

this is my cousin brad – jane’s husband!

look at hayden’s strawberry pie! wow!

appreciating: true deliciousness

12 Jun

sometimes you just gotta say…. WTF.

i’m going to share with you one very rare indulgence that must be lifted up in appreciation.

it’s not sushi

it’s not hummus

it’s not celery with almond butter

it’s not a skinny-no-whip-vanilla latte

it’s…

 

 

the mcdonalds bacon-egg-cheese mc fatty fat griddle.  

look at that piece of deliciousness.  420 calories and a whopping D+ on the nutrition charts.  but this, my friends, is lick your lips delicious.  the crisp, salty bacon laying gently across the not melted cheese with that sting of cheddar held together by eggs and two sweet and maple tasting pancakes.  crispy, salty & sweet.  all the right food groups

if God said that we could eat anything we wanted for an entire day and not gain any weight, I would put on a wig, dark glasses, a scarf around my hair and hunker down in mickie d’s.  don’t look down your epicurious nose at me.  have you tried?  hey wait – looks like paris hilton feels the same way…

(picture courtesy of http://www.buzzfeed.com/melismashable/celebrities-eating-mcdonalds)

if you agree with me, put your hands in the air and say AMEN!

chef dat underground dinner in dallas

10 Jun

last night we finally did an underground chef dat dinner in deep ellum.

i say finally because i had heard about it from several people including suzanne and some friends of the glasses and always wanted to check it out but didn’t have the chance.

until last night.

what an underground dinner is – at least the chef dat way – is you get on an email list and every week there is a dinner – or a couple of dinners – that you can attend by giving your cc number and reserving your space.  space is extremely limited.  you do this without knowing what is going to be on the menu or knowing the location of the dinner.  you kind of know the area, but not exact location.  so if you’re one of of these types that can’t go with the flow -in terms of being a picky eater-  this is not for you.

chef dat is david anthony temple a 28 year old chef who has been doing this for 3 years and has built quite a following.  he has chef dat dinners now in new orleans (where he’s from), hawaii and ft. worth (new).

we went with the st. peter’s – two of the nicest people we know – and a lot of fun!  they own hypnotic donuts in east dallas (dangerously close to our house!)

 

will we do it again?  heck yes!  great music, drinks, food and company – we had a blast.  chef dat came out before every course and told us what is in it, how and where he got it and how he created it.  local ingredients, unique and creative ideas and delicious.  what a fun night.

loving:on-line magazines

8 Jun

once again, for your weekend reading enjoyment, i’m featuring some fantastic magazines that are on-line now.  flip your screen view on FULL SCREEN and rip through these pages because there is some good stuff!

1. matchbook – june edition is red hot!  i love all the features here.

2. sweet paul.  this one is new to me and oh so fun to breeze through!  144 pages of lush colors and ideas.  paul started writing a blog

but then morphed into an on-line magazine.  so you get both – the blog and the magazine.

these are cookies!

3. and here is my beloved domino magazine resurrected on-line in the form of lonny.

4. lastly there is rue magazine.  there are probably a lot more, so not really “lastly”.  super bright and cheery.  i love this one a lot.  check it out.

appreciating this: be good to yourself, for once

7 Jun

we all need to hear some kind words.

and sometimes you need to be the one who needs to say them

to yourself.

see if you can pick up what i’m putting down here. happy almost friday!

hope that felt good! rinse, rewind and repeat as necessary.

all these great images and where they came from are on my “words” board on pinterest here

eating at: wayzata, minnesota

6 Jun

minnesota is one of those states you don’t hear much about (outside of it)

and i know why – it is paradise and no one wants you to know about it!  truly.  the land of the lakes.  it is just a picture perfect state.  at least the places I’ve seen.  like wayzata, minnesota.  quaint, clean – perfect.  enjoyed a great dinner last night with beth from the agency before our meeting today.  fresh fish – can’t beat it. 

appreciating others: reggie watts & jane fonda

5 Jun

more than anything i want to get out of my comfort zone.  but i don’t try too hard to do so.  a while ago i mentioned liking airplane turbulence because it jolts me out of that zone and there is a bit of unknowing, uncertainty and immediacy about it.  notice i said that airplane turbulence gets me out of my comfort zone.  not bungee jumping or sky diving but air pockets.  that’s what i mean by “i don’t try too hard to do so”.

sometimes – you can be transported outside your mental comfort zone by just watching a video or reading a book and that is where reggie watts comes in. right now, i’m on a flight from dallas to minneapolis – a small regional jet.  i put in my headphones and started in on catching up on some TED videos.  most if not all – can be transporting.  but these in particular i want to share with you.

reggie watts 

is a brooklyn based artist – comedian and musician.  i’d love to see him live.  he improvises much of his act.  i love him because he is completely OUT THERE.  but in a good way!  what went through my head while watching the TED video was this:

what the hell is he talking about?
people are laughing and i don’t get it
i may be stupid
rewind
watch again
really pay attention (note: we’ll talk about that later…)
laugh
watch some more
bob my head and jive
laugh
come to realize he is poking fun at the pseudo intellelectualism
i feared i didn’t have
at the beginning of me watching this
i love it

check his video out and google him.  way to make me thing differently, reggie.

jane fonda

was next.  blown away at how she is giving the “third act” (or aging) a whole new outlook.  she talks about breaking down this curve – you know the curve – you are born, you peak at mid-age then deteriorate as you age – the third act.  jane is challenging “that’s the way we’ve always thought” and i would say winning, if you ask me.  she has a lot to say and some wonderfully deep thoughts like:

when you get older, you review and re-evaluate  what you’ve been told throughout your life by loved ones – or not- and now being of age to challenge those truths or at least come to the realization that those words or actions probably weren’t directed at you but at themselves.  aging lets you heal and see who you really are, maybe.
she also talks about being a girl and then a woman.  how we’re born all authentically true to ourselves and then we grow up and get hit with wanting to be popular and fitting in and being loved and it beats out of us who we really are.  jane says that in the third act, that authentic spirit can come back full force if it is recognized and cherished.
i’ll tell you one thing, jane and reggie are two thinkers that knocked me out of my mind’s comfort zone on my little plane to minneapolis today.
and there wasn’t even any turbulence.

appreciating life: cool things i stumbled upon

4 Jun

every now and then i stumble on to some really cool things, using the website stumble upon.  here is a carefully curated list for your reading and exploring enjoyment.

1. top ten travel apps.

 check out this site – i hadn’t heard of half of these!  especially the postcard app.  super duper coolio, man

2. hobby quiz

click here for a cute quiz for you to take with your sig other.  nice!

3. brilliant iPhone case AND credit card holder.

4. this without a doubt, is one of the most creative brunch display’s i’ve ever seen!  makes me hungry looking at it.

 

 

appreciating it: new outlooks

2 Jun

so my blog is coming back big and bold for those of you who think i’ve gotten a bit lackadaisical in my blogging lately.

 

 

i don’t blame you for thinking that.  it could be true.  as much as i love writing and being creative and thinking, blogging can get tricky.  let me try and explain.

it’s very “outward” and controlled.  

what that means is this… just like tv, movies, magazines, digital things – you are only getting one side of the story and it is the “most perfect side”.  follow me?  let’s use my beloved barefoot contessa as an example.  i think i love her because her cooking show, her interviews, story – everything portrays a per-fect life.  oh, let’s go clip some herbs from my garden, lets drive down to the market to see david where he’ll kill a chicken fresh for me, let’s hop over to paris where i speak french en peu.  i love it.

you see i’ve always wanted to be that way.  ever since the brady bunch tv show.  i was 10 or 11 and i’d ask my mom why our house didn’t look like their house.  she’d say “because it’s a tv show” and i never quite grasped that concept. 

what i want to see or read is an article titled “the barefoot contessa becomes unraveled!”.  mind you, i don’t mean that i want something bad to happen – i just want to see the underbelly.  not literally, but you’re picking up what i’m putting down, right?   i want to see her pour flour into the mixer and have it splatter on her face (hello…always happens, right?)  i want jeffery, her beloved, come into the kitchen and pinch her butt.  i want an entire show on bloopers and practical jokes.  i want her friends to streak across her backyard when she is showing us how to lay charcoal just the right way in the grill.  i’d like her to drop a pickle on the floor, brush it off and pop it in her mouth.

that, to me, is way more interesting and real.

but i don’t yet buy into my own ideals in this regard.  i want to appear to have it all together.  but i never do. and it’s a constant disappointment.  and i’m learning that …

that’s life.  that’s real.

back to writing a blog.  see my pictures, read my witty persiflage, see how perfect things are.  i just don’t want that.  

and i’m going to admit it right now in front of my millions of readers.  just like bene brown tells me too.  being vulnerable is much more admirable and harder than being like everyone else.  for example:

1. i wait until my nails absolutely need it before getting them done.

2. sometimes i have one or two glasses of wine past the recommended amount.

3. i moved a desk the other day and there was a vent that looked like it hadn’t been cleaned since the house was built 82 years ago.

4. occasionally, i like to stay in my pjs all day long.

5. i have left the house without showering before.  yep. and gone to nordstrom.

6. i made dinner for company and made mini meat loaves and put them on a flat sheet with no edge.   all the grease ran over the edge and filled the kitchen with smoke.  hey, made a good memory!

i’m sure the list could go on and on and on.  but i don’t really want you to know all my imperfections.  yet.  we’ll leave those to be undiscovered later.

can’t wait to share with you in the upcoming posts things i appreciate.