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this valentines day, love yourself first

11 Feb

this valentine’s day, I offer you a twist on what to think about first.

those of you with loved ones will automatically give cards, treats and smooches. that’s fun for sure.

but this v-day, add something new to the mix.   add spending a few minutes loving who you are.   i know how stupid that sounds but stop laughing for a second.   do YOU love YOU?

Screen Shot 2014-02-11 at 1.22.32 PMwhat that means is do you take care of yourself?  not in the manicure/pedicure way.  it doesn’t mean that you perform your role as wife/husband, mother/daughter, friend/peer perfectly – as we know that is never the objective.  it means… is the voice in your head – the one that talks to you – a positive voice?  does it say things like:

“you nailed that presentation!”

“that’s ok, there will be another opportunity, you did your best!”

“you are exactly where you need to be.”

or is it more like this:

“dumb ass, why’d ya do something like that?”

“i just can’t keep up”

“why’d i say that? i’m so stupid”

the thing with being good to yourself is that if you never learned from your parents, older siblings or a caregiver how to love yourself, you may not even know how.  a big part of being good to yourself is to say I AM ENOUGH.  and it’s being vulnerable enough to admit you’re not perfect.

one of the biggest life-changing things i did was watch this TED video.  i watched the video, i dunno, maybe 10 times.  it’s one of those videos that digs deep into who you are. i actually already wrote about this video here back in 2012.  it breaks open the WHY behind the negative self-talk, which then shows you how to love yourself more.   watch it.  and if you want more info,  you can read the blog, take the class or simply just read the book. 

also, here’s some more inspiration to love yourself on V-Day.  find more here.

Enough1 Enough2

appreciating life: vulnerability & ted

5 Jan

i just watched the most amazing TED talk.

i’ve seen a lot of them, but this one was simply awesome.  please click on the highlighted links to watch.  she addresses in a very scientific, researched way our most important and fundamental need to connect.

that is what life is all about. 

our connection with other people.  from there she talks about being vulnerable is our best way to connect but how people don’t let themselves be less than “perfect” or open themselves up to their shortcomings such as the fear of not being loved or reaching out to connect and not connecting.  but this is based on years (6) of stories and common threads.

this is my gift to you – this video.  watch it.  i really got a lot out of it.

if you’re not familiar with TED, then read about it here.  if you travel a lot (or not) just download the TED podcasts on itunes and watch when on the plane.  that is what i do.  some of them i’ve watched 10 times.  here are some of my favorites.  watch out – you’ll get addicted! Just click on the underlined link to watch:

Caroline Casey: looking past limits (wow!!)

Sarah Kay – if i should have a daughter

Mark Bezos – a life lesson from a fireman

Seth Priebatsch – a game layer on top of the world (this is the company i worked with!!)

Eric Whitacre: a choir as big as the internet

Johanna Blakley  (this one i watched 10+ times!)



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