hi. i realize i’ve been more absent than usual on the blogging scene. i changed jobs and am in a whole new industry – moved from advertising agencies to the media world – a media holding company. my concentration has really been on that. i’ve also been struggling with revamping this blog… but that’s another post. this is about two tip thursday. a new series i’m bound to keep up at least through two thursdays (alas making it a series…)
and they are going to be random tips. because that is me. random. for those of you that know me, you know that i have self-diagnosed ADD and tend to move on in the conversation faster than the other person intended. therefore making things RANDOM!
here are two things i know that i want to share with you today.
1. MONICA LEWINSKY KICKS ASS.
wow. if you haven’t seen this yet, watch it now. is it odd for me to say i’m so proud of her?
“Public shaming as a blood sport has to stop,” says Monica Lewinsky. In 1998, she says, “I was Patient Zero of losing a personal reputation on a global scale almost instantaneously.” Today, the kind of online public shaming she went through has become constant — and can turn deadly. In a brave talk, she takes a hard look at our online culture of humiliation, and asks for a different way.
today, try listening more than talking. i’m just as guilty of this as the next person so this isn’t a “i’m more mighty than thou” tip here.
Others listen only long enough to figure out whether the speaker’s views conform to their own, says Bernard Ferrari, author of “Power Listening” and dean of the Johns Hopkins University Carey Business School, in Baltimore. Still others interrupt to spout solutions—often before the problem has fully been identified, Dr. Ferrari says.
this article in the wall street journal says: The failure to listen well not only prolongs meetings and discussions but also can hurt relationships and damage careers. However, it is possible to improve your listening skills—first, by becoming aware of the ways you may tune others out.
i learned how to listen from a couple of different sources. the biggest was becoming a stephen minister ten years ago. this was intense training on listening to people who are going through huge life changes. from the death of a loved one to a divorce to a loss in a job. but the other source was improv. i talk about that here a little. but you can’t keep a scene moving unless you are listening. in fact, you can look super stupid if you don’t listen to your team on stage. read more about that here in this article.