taking off!

8 Jan

i’ll be honest with you – sometimes it’s hard not being a mom in a mom-filled world. there is a bit of that feeling of missing out on something. and i am. i get it.

but that is kind of superficial thinking because all moms know being a good mom takes more than just the desire to “be one”. so on the flip side of that feeling is the confidence of having made smart choices in my life- i’ve made a lot of them including waiting to marry the man of my dreams instead of “mr. maybe” years ago just so i could have kids. as i’ve said before, if the relationship isn’t right between mom and dad – it isn’t a good basis to bring kids into the world – crap rolls downhill as they say. it starts at the top.

i’ve also wanted to blog for a long time on why there isn’t a better way to bond with other childless couples other than using the word childless or DINK. both really kind of negative words, wouldn’t you say? i guess nothing has to be said but i wish there was a term that defined: happy/loving life and each other. why aren’t there resources for us, a way for us to bond? we have several couple friends who are very happy and don’t have kids. as i roll these questions around and come to no solid conclusion, something happened that jolted me out of my serious pondering:

road. trip.


oh wait… two more…

last. minute.

yep, on friday night at about 7pm after i got home from work to a fire in the fireplace, a glass of wine waiting for me, ROF said to me “want to go to chicago tomorrow?” that would be a … yes. so we gave max to carla at the canine inn and hit the road. we roughed it. suite at the park hyatt, a bottle of plumpjack, tour of all my old condos and dinner thanks to chicago’s most wonderful socialite and personality and good friend, candace jordan (thanks candace!) at one of my dad’s favorite places in the world (and no reservations available for months) gibson’s steakhouse.

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we got home to b’ham sunday at a decent hour, did a little work and went to bed. i love my man and i appreciate our life as a DINK!

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11 Responses to “taking off!”

  1. judy moore January 8, 2013 at 9:07 am #

    This is a wonderful message. So happy you found mr. Wonderful .

    • amyefulford January 8, 2013 at 10:17 am #

      Me too Judy!! Thank you!

  2. Jeff Chemeres January 8, 2013 at 9:49 am #

    Love this post Amy!
    I forwarded it to my wife!
    Looking forward to seeing you on your next “adventure” to Toronto!

  3. Will Short January 8, 2013 at 10:59 am #

    Great post, Amy.

    • amyefulford January 8, 2013 at 11:38 am #

      Thanks Will! Hope you are doing great!

  4. Valentine January 8, 2013 at 5:37 pm #

    We say we are ‘child free’ … and I can’t believe this … as two people that once lived in the same building on the same floor – WE had the SAME weekend .. we were AT the PARK HYATT at the spa on Saturday and NOMI for lunch .. OMG!

    • amyefulford January 8, 2013 at 6:36 pm #

      I CAN’T BELIEVE IT!! rats! Would have been great to catch up, for sure! What a hotel. We’ll have to plan to run into each other next time!

      • Valentine January 8, 2013 at 10:06 pm #

        Indeed SISTA .. so close : )

  5. janesheis January 28, 2013 at 10:45 pm #

    “i’ll be honest with you – sometimes it’s hard not being a mom in a mom-filled world. there is a bit of that feeling of missing out on something.”
    I honestly never feel that way…I do think it’s definitely hard not being a mom in a mom-filled world BUT I don’t feel like I’m missing out on anything. Other people think I AM but I feel the opposite actually…I am doing way more things than I could ever do if I had kids. And I have an awesomely happy marriage which I do not think I would have if we had children (at least def not AS happy). I know people say kids give you unconditional love but you know what? I don’t need it…I love myself, my husband loves me, my 2 cats love me and so do my family and friends. There is plenty of love to go around. <3
    Anyways just wanted to give you my 2 cents. Sounds like you had a great week end, I love being a DINK as well… Cheers 🙂

    • amyefulford January 30, 2013 at 2:40 am #

      Thanks for commenting fellow dink! And great blog! I would never give up my life the way it is – love it. And love sleeping in on Sat mornings!!

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