lessons from E.T.

1 Jul

last night ROF and i watched movie # 25 on our quest to watch the A.F.I (american film institute) top 100 movies.  we have been working our way to #1 and it has taken us about 3 years now.  you can read about our journey here.

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the #25 movie was E.T.  i haven’t seen E.T. since i was 12 years old in the movie theatre in grand blanc, michigan.  i remember crying my eyes out.   this movie is a great movie on so many different levels.  watching it as a 43 year old, i notice the similarities of life and especially how it paralleled my own just this past week.  E.T. was a stranger. someone that didn’t fit it.  someone that wasn’t wearing yoga pants and carrying a louis vuitton bag.   E.T. was odd at first and sweet just after a few moments of getting to know him.  he was scary and odd to adults, but to kids he was a friend and someone they wanted to help.

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a week ago today, we put our beloved english bulldog, max, to rest.  he was suffering, in pain and not happy.  boy, did we love that dog.  at first you may be thinking that i’m going to make a deep correlation between loving a pet and what happened in E.T.  and you’d be right.  but actually, max was just like E.T. physically.   grunting, whining, waddling to get a scrap and he ate like a pig.  best dog in the world.

at 12 i  bawled my eyes out because i didn’t know how to deal with death.  

i didn’t understand good-bye forever.  at 43, i know how that feels now.  not just because of max, but because of wrigley, my lab that my brother had to put down just a few weeks before max, because of losing my dad too early and losing some friends.  watching E.T. puts that feeling into a short, well-written movie.  it’s about being open enough to welcome someone new and, maybe, different into your life, loving them, teaching them, learning from them and then letting them go.  they are not ours to keep.  nothing is ours.  be thankful for every minute of every day you have them.  then give them back to God.  

5 Responses to “lessons from E.T.”

  1. Jill July 1, 2013 at 6:51 am #

    It is hard to loose anyone, furry or human, at any point in our lives. Praying that they are waiting in heaven for us (hoping we are blessed to return to God’s graces) can bring some level of peace but still having to continue what God is wanting of us here on earth is a difficult lesson in and of itself. Hugs to you and your family as you once again try to find a little peace in knowing Max & Wrigley are hanging out with your dad. XO

  2. Elizabeth Boone McLean July 1, 2013 at 10:40 am #

    amen! now to show it to Susan…

  3. Valentine July 8, 2013 at 11:20 am #

    SO sorry to hear of your loss. I look at our mutt and he is only 14 months old and feel sad at the thought of the day he will not be with us. Love furry family members they rock!

    • amyefulford July 9, 2013 at 6:12 am #

      Thanks Karen. It’s hard! Banksy is darling!

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